I have seen @TrumanCapote go hard on Robert Burale in regards to a collapsed marriage with Rozinah Mwakideu. Many times, we misunderstand how relationships and marriage work. it is not unusual for a husband to set boundaries; to have restriction on people or influences he perceives as potential threats to their union.
In Burale’s case, setting restrictions on who Rozinah could interact with does not necessarily mean he was insecure, controlling, or dictatorial.
A gardener once said, “I don’t force plants to grow. I simply remove whatever prevents them from growing.” Marriage works in much the same way. When you commit to someone, you become like that gardener. Your role is to create the right conditions for the union to flourish. That often means removing the “weeds” — habits, influences, or even people — that threaten your union.
In trying to lead his home, Burale may have misjudged the situation, and perhaps he was wrong. But he had all good intentions. He is not the manipulative villain some are painting him to be — just a man trying to protect what he valued. And as the saying goes, “To err is human.”
As I said it before, marry or don’t marry you will regret. Choose your hard.