Being a veteran introvert, I sometimes give myself some social challenges kuchangamsha medulla. Today, I executed one.
My personal Social challenge for today was, meet a stranger, establish a rapport, talk for a significant amount of time. No introductions, blah blah…just trigger a convo and let it flow and part ways thereafter, as strangers.
So nikapanda mat ya Lavington kutoka pale ABC. Nikashuka pale Roundabout ya lavington aka Saitoti. Nlikua na biashara pale Mwingi Rd, Kile. I thought, instead of kuchukua nduthi, ni-trek hapo ndo ntapata mtu tupige story yoyote. So it happened that there was a Budaa who was walking in that direction. Sio mzae viiile but hii watu ya mid-life crisis. Nikapiga hesabu za kuongeleshwa masaibu ya bibi nyumbani…There was no alternative. Social challenge had to be done with so we could focus on other businesses. Nikaamua if not, why not. Kukapita gari ya Dola Flour na mzae akaanza kuropokwa vile wakenya wanakethiroriwa na mambo ya unga. Sasa mi nilikua tu mmh, eeeh, enyewe, kabisssa, for real, just imagine…Saa hio ye anaongea tu unga this unga that. So it was decided. The distance between Rounda ya Lavi na Junction ya Othaya Rd, Kama kutoka Odeon hadi KICC, all that was talked about was story ya Unga. And my social challenge went through. Hatukuulizana majina na nini nini. Tuka-split pale junction kama buda amebambika, nami tension za first contact with a prospectively big client zikiwa zimepunguka. Social challenge ikawa kaput.
Sasa the next one, I want to invite myself into a total stranger’s house and have breakfast with them. I want it to be as awkward as possible. As my Friend Mee Mbui says, Kile kitazaliwa kizaliwe tutanyonyesha ata kama hatuna boobs.
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I don’t know how I’m the first to comment but this is a huge coincidence because I’ve been thinking about this. I’m not an introvert lakini of late nimekuwa indoors sana. This has just rubber stamped my intentions kujiwekea challenge.
Fair enough…come back with hekaya after hacking the breakfast challenge.
The only challenge I have come to press is greeting strangers, esp kwa Matatu, market, lift, na hawkers. I realised that watu wengi hawapendi kuongea na strangers. How can you sit next to someone in a mat or in the hotel (same table) without saying hi! Hio ni ungwana kweli?
Kuna jamaa tulipiga naye story ya Abisai 221 million kwa mat. Msee hatujuani. In the story, tulitravel hadi Jamaica, tukabudgetia hio pesa…Buroti, tukajenga flats, tukalipia watoto wa kijiji schoolfees saa hio concordi anatukumbusha vile tusisahau kueka vikombe za muratina kwa hio budget.
So cool. Mimi inadepend na kama niko stressed out. If I’ve nothing bugging me I can be the most social person. Kusema ukweli being an introvert is a waste of time. YOLO…!
Small talk is a bitch. It’s emotionally draining and it sucks the life out of everything. Shida ni most people don’t know how to carry a conversation with people other than their relatives, close friends, and colleagues. Wakiongea na stranger wanakwama kwa small talk na meffi analyses of unga conspiracies coz they’re afraid to dig deep n have interesting, engaging convo.
The truth is wasee hukua mislabeled introverts when they are in fact extroverts who deliberately choose to avoid talking people with shitty conversation skills.
@Jazzman hauko peke yako though I do not befriend dogs… I am very comfortable alone. I realized that it takes me time to let my guard down around new faces.
i am one of those who hate “idle talk”. i don’t want a random person to come start chatting me up on the price of unga or why nwasa will never be a chama when i am reading my newspaper with my cup of coffee. i’ll however say hello if you preceded me to the only table with an empty seat at the restaurant…
