I strongly believe that there should be a school for marriage. Like somewhere you enroll between the age of 25-30 for like 1 year to be trained how to be a husband and a wife.
Because people blindly get into marriage then learn the hard way. There are so many adults today who were ruined by marriage.
Two adults marrying rarely for the same reason. The girl probably just wants someone who can pay her rent. The man probably is probably under pressure from home to marry and looks for the next convenient woman he can marry. Rarely do two people have the same aspirations, same compromises, and want to live together to old age.
In the school, each adult should undergo thorough assessment, their family background, their childhood traumas, their mental, physical and sexual health, genes, and so much more.
The idea is not to make people perfect. But more to understand our flaws, how to adjust them, how to keep some in check and how to navigate the murkier ones that are hard to adjust. Say if a man is a serial philanderer, how do you deal with that?
Premarital counseling exists to feed men bluepill nonsense that women are never interested.
Ask women what they want in men and they will tell you they need a man who is intelligent, empathetic, intuitive, and such. The very qualities women care the least about. I hang out with women a lot with male friends. All the woman I know from all walks of life prefer sociopaths for their men. Nice intelligent people like myself are seen as boring. The nice Silas always scores badly with girls than the bad ‘Acting Silas’.
Now.
How do we reconcile what our hearts wants with some bit of pragmatism. There is the Madonna-whore complex that most modern men are not immune to. Consistently I gravitate towards bad girls. But everyone including my aunts know, I need an SDA kienyeji to handle my calm self. I can’t deal with whirlwind. But the heart, that unsmartest of organs wants a Cardi B. Cardi Bs are witches man.
There are men who have honourable wives at home but slay Queens make and ruin their days daily.
So at the school, we will study the human psyche and understand how the brain works. That we never want the best for ourselves. That is why people pair up with their most toxic exes.
The only reason the school may not take off is women rarely comply in marriage. Like you can teach women all the good things but they will do the opposite. For fun. Men can comply.
What do you think guys
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