Relatives functions & gathering

Seriously, family members I see and talk to maybe once a year think they know everything about me and then start judging me. I have a gathering coming up and some of these people I haven’t seen or spoke to in years, but since they’re friends with me on Facebook, they act like they know me or they assume my life is the same as last time I spoke to them years ago. Even when I saw these people last year half of them didn’t even talk to me, so it’s been more than a year since we spoke.

I do post things to Facebook such as current events, charity events I volunteer for, festivals I go to or vacations I take. However, I rarely post anything about my job, dating, or personal life.

Most of my photos on FB are of me alone at different events. Sometimes I’ll post a picture with my parents and sister.

I don’t put anything about my relationship status on FB or post about dates because it’s nobody business.
I also don’t post any pictures with friends because my friends and I don’t really take pictures together, some don’t use social media.

As soon as I walk into this family gathering I get assumptions that I have no friends, don’t date. I was chatting with my aunt last year and when I told her I went on a few dates with this chic & she was shocked and almost fell out of her seat. My parent’s attended a relatives wedding this year where I wasn’t invited, they didn’t invite extended family, but anyway they told other family members I was out with friends that night and it was like a commotion, they couldn’t believe I was out.it’s so insulting they think I don’t date or have friends.

Nobody asks me if I’m seeing anyone, just assume I’m not.
It’s insulting and ridiculous.
The only people that really know my life are my parents, sister and close friends, so I just get fed up of these other family members acting like if it’s not on FB or I don’t call them and personally tell them something about my life it’s not happening.

I get really annoyed at these gatherings especially when these people start judging me, what should I do??

Wachana na mapokoste wa SJ jamaa… watakumaliza.

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wacha umama!!

kwani wewe ni mwoman? u have female insecurities zile za mwoman aki attend family gatherings family members wanamuuliza utaoa lini?

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why don’t u just tell them what u’re telling us

umama tamalisa hii kijiji

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Live your life na wacha kusumbua

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why do you have to prove to anyone that you have friends and dates?

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Punguza mafeelings why should u care wat they think its ur life for God’s sake

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Buda,what other people think of you - relatives or not-shouldn’t bother you kama unanijua…

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Show up in one of those gatherings with a drop dead gorgeous girl and watch their reaction.

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Hii ni umama

in this life, playing your cards close to your chest is the best thing to do…don’t give a fuck what other people think…as long as you are happy keep walking [SIZE=1]or wanking[/SIZE]

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ni opinion…si facts
mbona unakazana kubamba wasee?
shiiit unajimake unhappy ya bure

Now, this is the classic Kenyan problem of juxtaposing real life with social media. Shut down that FB if it has become the barometer of one’s existence in your family.

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Really? What do you expect of them if they have never seen you with any friends…or girl? Maybe they think you are gay and you are not proving them wrong! And anyway, why care what they think?

mlifikishana wapi na yule dame wa Bavaria?

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And you call yaself a grown up ass man? N mafeelings ni za pregnant she elephant…

When will people grow up…

I once did this …wataanza kukuuliza uta mu oa lini

So what do you expect from me?,Empathy?

I bet that lady is an escort, wale hukodishwa tu