Wakuu wote, hope someone my learn a thing or two about my experience with a woman I called my wife. I will be very brief.
Now, I meet this woman early 2015. We were in the same career path but she was yet to be employed, I myself was already employed 4 years then.
She show me interest , We date for sometime then ball iko ndani, all along very composed innocent girl, I marry her. The first born came and for 2 years she was a sweet and loyal house wife. She get a job somewhere but not permanent, thats when she started revealing her true nature, I stayed calm and hoped she will change. The first sign of a snake of a woman is disrespecting you, arrogance, rudeness, emotional manipulation et Al, I ignored all those red flags.
Comes late 2021 she got a permanent job(civil) hapo she went full lights, as man I choose to hang on waiting perhaps she matures up and stop the shenanigans, A big mistake. More up and down followed and kept hoping itās normal with any marriage, still more wrong.
Fast forward, Last year September is when all the hell broke loose. She was introduced in these scams, you have heard about them, opticoin, Ads, IGEX and many more. You see you bring more people into the scams you earn dollars, she graduated to even higher level she would attend the scams meetings in Mombasa, I was helpless, would do nothing. Just hanged on
The Satan showed her true colours from January this year, I think some man introduced her into āforexā think she mastered the art. I was able to access her phone once and realised how much money she had acrued from the scams, not much but close to 800k. A block head with money, will always mess. Madharau extreme, arrogance, pride and even wanting to get physical with me. She had already withdrawn wifely duties including conjugals, spent her nights in the kids bedroom.
She said even went ahead disappearing a whole weekend when she has already blacklisted me, canāt even trace, even to reappear with no explanation. Several times turning home late with unclear absence. I became depressed, turned to alcohol to calm myself down at least even to catch some sleep. I started missing work. She had the guts to sit with my boss somewhere and explained that missing work due to alcoholism. Yes it was.
I faced a disciplinary panel, the boss tabled even my personal matters in the panel. A warning was sent to me. Trying asking why she went that level even to mess my job, more fights and insults followed. I have not mentioned she had already gone fully secret mode, passwords all over, flight mode in the house and some calls will be answered outside. For the last two months I shared the same house with a person who had blacklisted, could not even access her even in a scenario a kid was sick. Mark you I have always been a good husband taking all manly responsibilities.
Now as we speak now, I just picked my documents and left one morning as I left for work. Went rented a bed sitter and bought only a mattress, nabuy vitu pope pole pole. The reason to leave are many, what broke the camel back is when she wanted again we go physical, I am not a weak man but I was aware she was looking for transfer and wanted evidence for domestic violence, I composed myself. I had to choose whether I should go to jail or choose my freedom. I walked away wadau. Now threats all over from her that she is going to children court. I told her to go. I am at peace but the depression is real and I know am going to sail thru this, I will work on myself.
