Hi everyone,
I’m a gay man in a relationship with an older partner. We’ve been together for a while, and honestly, this is the safest, most emotionally supportive relationship I’ve ever had. With him, for the first time, I’ve been able to speak openly about things I held in for most of my life. He’s been a huge part of my healing.
But despite all this, I’m struggling inside.
A while ago, I started working with a psychologist and learned I likely have Complex PTSD (CPTSD), rooted in childhood trauma and what I now suspect may have been sexual abuse(MY DAD SNUCK A FINGER OR TWO IN MY RECTUM…MAYBE THEY WERE THREE… LET’S CALL THEM THREE). Since then, I’ve been trying to piece together fragmented memories and make sense of my emotional patterns — and one of the hardest, most shameful parts has been my attraction to much older men.