You know those ngati wazaes with little to no education who do biasharas and are so loaded and the mothers are naive, weak and submissive. I usually see their children suffer a lot because the father is an illiterate dictator and the mother can’t do anything. The ones I have observed especially first borns, their lives end up badly. Have you observed the same?
Leta hekaya first born,mzae hakupei kakitu?.
:D:D:D 100 percent true.
Do you know why a majority of the first borns lead miserable lives? Ni juu huwa si wa huyo mzae. Mzae ali happen ku marry single mother.
Hii nimeona sana na ni shida inayowadhiri wanaotoka central.
Very true.
Kuna wengine, mzae is harsh hadi ana impair/hinder the psychological and social growth of the older kids. Jamaa wanakaa ni kama watu hawashiki radar.
The parents don’t invest in education for their kids. The kids might not have the prerequisite entrepreneurial skills thus end up with nothing to look up to in life. The soft life as kids acts as a disadvantage
These kids don’t have any soft lives. Zao ni kuchapa works kama punda.
Mali ya kuangukia almost always dissipates generationally. Natural selection always resets the order of things
True nimeona story ya a guy called Solomon Gitau Kilanga on YouTube, exactly what you’re talking about[ATTACH=full]453201[/ATTACH]
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It’s just a family I knew growing up
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That is a very great observation. It is contributed to by several factors.
Firstly, the Mzee makes it big by sheer force of personality and good business instincts. He is decisive and authoritative. The wife knows her place and is very submissive and a proper housewife supporting the Mzee as he builds their empire.
Mzee in wanting to give kids the best may be very dicatorial and make them fear him and there impair their ability to make own decisions or even ability to say no. They develop weak personality.
The good schools they go to further make them less street smart and they also begin to mingle with dynastic offspring of the lords of the Land called Kenya. Their weak personality also makes them fall into wrong company where they are misled into wrong decisions.
Once they graduate they are unable to run family business as well as hold down a proper job because they are used to big money from pappy.
They also have very high standards of success to compete with. A good example is Karume children. You remember when grandchildren were following up on payments from estate for school fees and medical care yet their Parents are alive.
A solution is to be found in mentorship from a young age where you take them to work with you as well as teach them to make decisions and take responsibility. Indians come to mind on this.
Then also dictatorship should end once they are in class 6. You begin discussions and explain why you took certain decisions.
Most importantly leave them to the world once out of college. Let them move out and begin their own stuff. Give them land and encourage them to build a home and farm etc. Let the kids know they are separate from you and must make it on their own. Sio kusema they are waiting for Mzee to die so that they inherit his wealth
Hii shida iko very prominent sana na cousins wangu wakale …
Sheer force of personality kitu gani? Most Kenyan wealth ni ya kuangukia tu connection mahali. No intelligence or hard work involved
Good observation. Hii nimeona mara nyingi sana and once the mzee dies mali yake huisha kama patco.
They run their businesses kienyeji style and yeye tu ndio anajua vile vitu hu-run.Documentation zilch and bila yeye nothing moves. Everything is in his head.
One landlord I know who in my estimation collects 8 million in rent a month from his properties hutumia his relatives and friends in a bid to escape paying KRA.
Yeye ndio anajua property X in Kasarani rent huwa deposited kwa account ya nephew C.
Akikufa hata the immediate family hawatajua waanzie wapi
Kids nao usually have low self esteem na hawataki biashara za their overbearing father.
Very true
I believe men who have pulled themselves up by the bootstraps have Very high expectations of their eldest progeny. Wanaanza demands for ever increasing performance from primary school mtoto akiwa anafaa kuwa hana stress. The kid, since Hana a backbone (ju mzazi ni dominant in every Sphere of the home), most times just gives up and becomes lukewarm.
The father becomes frustrated and this is evident to his son who becomes increasingly withdrawn. Inabidi hata ajaribu ku cope through drugs or other addictions. Hapo ndo mzae hum disown because he cannot accept a failure to mar his “perfect” image.
In African culture that’s where the uncles would come in to counter the fathers dominance and create balance, mtoto ni wa society mzima.
The TV series Succession comes to mind.
Huyo landlord ni mjinga wa mwisho