Last weekend, Chama, the women’s only welfare group of which I am the only male member, invited me to join them in a meeting and explain some matters of bedroom importance.
“We have noted with concern a trend that we feel is dangerous for our marriages,” the chairperson introduced the topic of the day. “The frequency of sex in our marriages is declining at super speed and we fear that in the long run there will be no sex at all.”
Each Chama member had made a chart over the past six months to show the frequency of sex in their marriages.
“These trends show that overall, we rarely have sex more than twice a week. Many couples go up to a month. We wonder what we should expect if not divorce.”
Chama members were raising a pertinent concern. The assumption has been that human sexuality thrives in stable, long-term relationships. But science shows that unless you proactively work on your sexuality, it is a matter of time before it falls apart.
“What do you mean, work? Is it supposed to be a job?” a member shouted. Everyone laughed.
Well, fulfilling sexual relationships thrive in playfulness; a sexy relationship is one without rules of how to behave in order to remain dignified. It is a relationship where vulnerability has no consequences and so one can express their weird sexual behaviour without fear.
Fulfilling sexual relationships are where couples do not mind being out of control in the confines of their bedrooms; where being out of control is actually fulfilling and people thank their spouses for leading them to the experience.
I infrequently read some books by an author called Mantak Chia. Those couples, if they are really serious(or anyone for that matter) could gain a great of knowledge about “sexual secrets” from books like: The Multi-Orgasmic-Couple, The Multi-Orgasmic-man, or The Multi-Orgasmic-Woman, Sexual reflexology and many more.
But the books are not for the faint-hearted. There is a lot of details, “exercises” to do and require a lot of discipline and dedication for one to get the best out the information relayed in the books.
The most profound thing I have learned so far is that Sex can be used for healing and you can separate Orgasm(kufikisha threshold) from Ejaculation. Men loose a lot of energy from Ejaculation. That sexual energy can be stored/transferred to your partner. Also the more you “fikisha threshold” the lesser you will live.
That the words serious and sex make good bedfellows is a very bad lie. (no puns). Do not take anyone you are fucking seriously. If you do, kiss the bitch bye bye.
The most profound thing I have learned so far is that Sex can be used for healing and you can separate Orgasm(kufikisha threshold) from Ejaculation. Men loose a lot of energy from Ejaculation. That sexual energy can be stored/transferred to your partner. Also the more you “fikisha threshold” the lesser you will live.
Expound brother