Mimi the only advice I could have given my youngest self was to never deal with men at any age and on any level. Just live your life, love those who love you. If you want kids, import white sperm and have your kid or kids and raise them by yourself. If you can’t handle being a parent, just be single, don’t date men, don’t sleep with them, don’t get trapped into marriages with them. Just avoid and evade them in any and every way you can! 99.999% of your problems will be resolved that way! Your mental, physical and financial health will improve and benefit from this one decision alone than from any other decisions , you will make in this world!