Old men who are full if it..

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@jerrydubiz

How do get to tell your old man, sit your ass down mzee and listen, listen and listen and listen carefully, you are full of shit! Your ego is out of control, constantly bragging about the things you achieved in 1970s won’t make you any friends, neither will it earn you respect, you’re not the smartest human in the planet, you don’t have the monopoly of knowledge and wisdom, if you did you would be smart enough to know that genuinely listening to other people is the easiest way to get them in your corner, you may have been a bully in your heydays but now that shit doesn’t work any more, there are younger smarter and wealthier men than you now, they won’t take your ish, you’re causing too many problems…too many enemies, your bs is beginning to affect my life, You need to change old man. How do you get to break down this?

@FieldMarshal CouchP jitetee hapa…

[LeoK]

@M2Random

Boss…keep your distance from him. Na kama ni kutumia mama pesa, kuna m-pesa…use it. Usizoeane na baba yako kama ni rika yako, you should know better. Sometimes when relationships are shaky with relatives, unaenda missing for a year or two, just to let things calm down.

M2 hapo umeona. If it is visiting go in person even if ni kupeleka pesa. Spend some quality time even if ni ka Sunday afti. Bebana na familia. That’s good for salimiaring your mother. When they are busy chatting sit down with your old man even if kila mtu na gazette lake. Let him give you “advice” ! Then go home. Preferably far away.

[syndicate]

SOMETIMES and i mean SOMETIMES the only way to show love to the people who matter most in your life is by being away from them. Atleast for sometime.

[john_doe]

He sounds like my father who has a bigger ego than life itself hata nikimpigia simu lazima akate kwanza anipigie yeye mwenyewe…I learnt to keep away from him ndio nisikosane na yeye

[Steelo]

Enda uokote mzee uppercut navy seal style.
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Seriously though, I too had my disagreements with my father and distance works well. Find ways to dissociate yourself from anything or anyone that relates to him

[Ole_masai]

@jerrydubiz

I live in my own ‘mansion’, I only go home to salimia mathe but once your old man has pissed one more person so badly, created one more enemy, they become your enemies in extension, and you have to go back and kiss ass and dissociate your self from his actions because you need to be in good books with people in this town for you to run your biashara efficiently…

Yes mamas boy. When that old man you disregard and think is foolish leaves you, and you get older yourself, you will start discovering he was a genius, and his actions or stance were methodical and well informed. You will wish he was still around, you will miss him, but most of all you will understand and agree with his actions. Do that now, when he is alive.

[M2Random]

Trust me. Skipping town for a while is the best strategy to avoid confrontation with family members. I used to have problems with most, my father, a bunch of cousins and aunts who thought that I work in CBK, etc. So I left town, minimized my trips ocha and changed my phone number. Now only my nuclear family has my phone number, hao cousins/aunts who always call begging for loans they never repay cannot reach me.

[LISPY]

@M2Random

Huyu jamaa atoke kwao…the only time your father begins treating you like a real man is when he doesn’t feed you. I learned that the hard way. Kama unataka kuheshimiana na mzazi utoke kwake…no shortcut. Secondly huwezi ambia baba yako hivyo, there is a certain amount of respect and a big curse attached to it if you do. Be wise, leave your town and start life elsewhere.

Very true.Mimi after campus mzee hakunificha.Aliniambia nitoke kwake,na njwachane na biashara zake nihughulike na zangu.Nilijam na hasira nikasema ataona mimi sio bure.Atleast he now consults me and is fast to tell me new opportunities of investment ikitokea back home

[Rene_Descartes]

You dont argue with the old man too much. let him give you whatever he thinks is advice and dont take it for granted. I never take other people’s opinion for granted. I look at it from their perspective. If you do not want to do his stuff, just let him learn by example. If he sees you in a new car and tells you, “Its time you got a phd. The future is very important”. These are things most parents in their 70s, 60s, and 50s dream of. Just dont argue alot. Deliberate over what he says, then move on. If he keeps repeating it, just ignore it. He is trying to make amends to his failures and things he never achieved through you. Ata wao ile wakati walikuwa wanaishi kulikuwa na phd kama aliipata sawa, kama hakuipata, aketi pale atafute kitu ingine ya kufanya.

just dont try to sit him down and educate him. Imagine at 55 or 60, that toddler that damaged everything in your house while shitting himself trying to tell you what you should do because he is now grown up and is 3 years into marriage?

[nairobilay]

send him a tweet

[upepo]

You all seem to be missing the point. The old warrior is igniting flares all over, and the son is bearing the brunt due to his association with the father.

[Rene_Descartes]

@upepo

You all seem to be missing the point. The old warrior is igniting flares all over, and the son is bearing the brunt due to his association with the father.

Kwani he got into business with his father? Thats a huge error. He should make amends.

[ziga]

@LeoK

Utahama lini?

Exactly!!!, vacate the S/Q asap…you wanna prove a
point?..katafute zakooooo!!!

[ziga]

@upepo

You all seem to be missing the point. The old warrior is igniting flares all over, and the son is bearing the brunt due to his association with the father.

Serves him right!!! Kizee,hamaaaaaaaaaa!..

[Koolibah]

And his son takes after him

[benja]

Then I should thank God because as mine grows old he becomes more friendly…when I was young I used to fear him he was harsh hata kumuomba pesa ya mandazi was a problem but now sometimes when the things are thick he calls me asks me if I got food if he can send me rent hadi naskia aibu and tell him am OK and trust me am a grown ass man…

[Randy]

For those talking smack count yourself lucky cause you don’t have such ppl in your life. I have pal whose dad is the most selfish human being I have ever met … He does things that affect his children yet he didn’t even have the decency to stay n raise them yet he was capable, his family is filthy rich so his dad took in his kid and raised them. Whenever they asking him to do anything there must be something in it for him. How do you deal with such a person??

[Rene_Descartes]

@Randy

For those talking smack count yourself lucky cause you don’t have such ppl in your life. I have pal whose dad is the most selfish human being I have ever met … He does things that affect his children yet he didn’t even have the decency to stay n raise them yet he was capable, his family is filthy rich so his dad took in his kid and raised them. Whenever they asking him to do anything there must be something in it for him. How do you deal with such a person??

Read you own post bana. Who raised who? who did not do what?

[ziga]

Na Sasa nimeanza kukubali the adage:mwana haramu hata umstahi vipi,kidole atakitoa tuuu!,kukumbushana of their rightful places in society…

Huyo mzee hata ukataka ,huwezi mlipa for all that he’s done for you…umesahau haraka sanaaa!

Sasa unamuona falaaaa Sana,eh?..ajabu kweli!

Hata hii kizungu mingiii na upedho unatuonyesha hapa,its all courtesy of him…otherwise ungekuwa pale bernndora ukisakanya maplastic bottles na kuvuta glue…

Otherwise count your blessings na always shukuru mpaka hapo umefika…USIKUFURU!!..meffi!

BTW,UMESHAOA?..kumbuka unavyokopeshana hapa duniani,ndivyo hiyo vivyo utakavyolipwa!!!

Usishangae when that time comes and your own beloved son calls you:meffi hii!!..I assure you hakuna kitu utafanya but utaduwaaa!!..na ukileta hizo tantrums kama ulivyo leta hapa,unadundwa mangumi hapo na akupeleke Polisi.

When that happens,itakuwa ni deni unalipa tu!..vumilia!

Otherwise badala ya huu ufala,pray for them…Mungu Awajaze mema,Awape umri na afya na Awaonee na huruma kama walivyo kuhurumia wewe ulipokuwa mdogo… Kumbuka wangetaka wangekutupa Kwa Ceptic tank na ukasahaulika!..

Otherwise acha kujisikia sanaaa na kujiona Sasa umefika!!..yote sababu you have a good job/successful biz /that degree etc…kumbuka bila huo ufala wake unaouona Sasa,ungekuwa kibandaski Saa hii ukivuta nyota!

Nenda kaombe msamaha upesi!!!..meffi!

[pimpin5000hoes]

immediately after high school, niliona tumeanza kusumbuana na mzee. ananiambia in that period ya kungoja uingie campo, niende nifanye c.p.a. nikafanaya 0ne month nikadrop out. by the way, am an A grade student bu c.p.a nilikataa. nikaenda kufanya job ya insurance. mzae, akaona huyu mjamaa hachezi. nikatoka kwake nikaenda ngara. he gave me a position kwa biz yake then nikajijenga polepole nikaanza zangu. nilitoka kwake at the age of 18 years and never regretted. i minimised trips home. masiblings tunapatana tu around na home festive season. otherwise, kukaa karibu na wazae ni kujisumbua bure.