I have these relatives who I rushia kitu here and then. On multiple occasions, I’ve sent 30k here, 50k there, 10k apa kule etc.
So juzi nimeitishwa 15k. I had the money, obviously, but I decided to say “No” just for the sake of it.
Wueh, madharau nimeoneshwa ata usiongee. These are people I spoil with money kama burukenge. Waah, tenda wema nenda zako. At least from now on I’ll be directing these monies to Jack Daniels and other pleasures.
Kimeniramba!
Welcome Back. Expats hurambwa even with their immediate family. Remember, if you come back broke they will be the same people to ask you what you did with your money
Yeap. Also, it looks like they don’t want to talk about anything that doesn’t involve money. Can’t even have a casual conversation with them because they get bored immediately you change topics from money to other things. Wueh!
Lazima uchanuke gathee ugwache kuwa generous to every Tom, Dick and Harry
Mchapie next week umwambie kimeumana akurushie ka 20k
Nilijaribu hii at one time nikajua I was born alone 
It gets to a point They will not even ask you how you are, just what you can do for them
That’s the easiest way to deal free loaders
Congratulations. You are now a grown up. I learnt the hard way about the delicate relationship between relatives and money.
I once helped someone when his back was against the wall financially in my early 20s. I literally financed his business for free. A few years later my back was against the wall na hapo ndipo I learned a very harsh lesson. Saa hii I eat my sweat alone.
Never make the mistake of thinking that kindness and generosity will be reciprocated in the same magnitude. You can find yourself sacrificing a large portion of your net worth for someone who would never sacrifice even 1% of his for you.
I am happy that I learned those lessons early in life. Saa hii kusaidia relatives ni just the absolute bare minimum e.g an emergency case ya hosi etc. I will not let a relative die because of hunger or a disease. But anything above survival kila mtu akule jasho yake.
Looking back at my childhood, I could not understand why some of my uncles lived in opulence while others were peasants. Now I understand fully.
I am learning mkubwa. For example, I can send some of these people 80k but they won’t even call to confirm that they’ve received it citing that hawana credit. Sasa mimi juu niko US lazima nipige simu mwenyewe. Out of 80k they can’t buy credit ya 100 wanipigie simu kusema wamepata doh. Wueh!
I feel this every end month. They never use their credit to even call. I am always the one sending the money and calling to confirm Kama wamepata.
Lakini nikichelewa tu ivi, magically wanapata za credit. Sasa watakuwa wananionea tu uko Monaco vacation. I’ll be saying NO every time Kama dem ameiva kwa bar.
That’s what I’ve decided ; I’ll no longer be handing out money aimlessly unless one is at the verge of death. Some are so entitled because I’m a young single guy (twenties) so they think I don’t have any use for my money. From now henceforth, it’ll be a hard NO!
Alafu it’s like when I try asking them matters investment just to see what they’re thinking unaskia ni Kama izo story zimewaboo kabisa. Ata information hawawezi patia msee. The only thing they want to have to do with me is mbeca. Bure kabisa.
My advice, never give money beyond survival. Kama sio hosi, mazishi, ama chakula, usitoe. Hosi na mazishi lazima ikuwe kitu formal where others are also contributing. Chakula siwezi lea mtu for more than a week so 2k imetosha. Beyond that watu wajitegemee.
Kama ni relative Dem itisha mkia
Nirushie hiyo 5k nikule mtotoooo
Pole sana kaka, na sio relatives hata mabeste. Kila mtu pale nje anajililia tu
Mtingiza ulisha land ama bado ukona kule mayuu? Nikes zangu zili land ama bado
Mimi Niko na Ile amount ya kupeana to non 1st degree relatives and friends yenye hata ikipotea urafiki haitaisha. Ni 2k. Beyond that mtu ajipange
Nadunda next week
Chupipi WA Bandit alileta 4sisters mara iko hii unataka join college bandit schools fees lipa, ingine join high school bandit school fees lipa, ingine bwana ikiingia forest ikaleta watoto tano, ingine sijui job nasaidia chupipi chores ikaleta three kids.
Bandit iko na watoto alisema anasaidia 5of them etc…
Kwa sasa inabidi nahepa nyumbani kapsaaa iko roadtrip 24/7. No privacy at all.
Chupipi apana taka ona my own brothers or family only hers. Nimeinua mikono Mimi.
Naweka Boma ingine Kanairo sasa.
Watoto yangu apana pata peace at all. Can’t play or Bandit patia wao mawaidha…
Nimejaribu kupiga wife brakes juzi Mimi ishaongesa mtoto iko 8months old now.
Nikiskia watu nalia sijui unga nashangaa Sana. Bandit iko na forced budget crazy as hell.