Bad boys get a bad rap, yet all the family annihilators I’ve come across are good guys who don’t even have a speeding ticket or anything bad in their past. This guy was working for Joyce Myer I dont know how much more good guy or nice guy a man could be but look at what he did to his own family, his own kids, over as usual an affair.
This is why I say it’s not normal or good to be overly good, one is usually straining under some weight to appear perfect. This guy was not himself, even as a pastor’s son working for an international televangelist. It means he was sick in the head, he just couldn’t accept who he was–a married “Christian” man having an affair, yet he was secretly having one, but he was pretending to himself and everyone else all the time as he planned to remove the family he saw as an obstacle.
Why is it that this good guys always feel like they have met the ONE when they get into affairs. Why can’t they just pump and dump.
I guess it’s the novelty of being with someone new after a long time. A nice guy esp. in US will probably have married a high school or college sweetheart, so he didn’t really get to mess around a lot. When he gets the chance he might think that life passed him by, so he thinks with only the small head. To pump and dump you need to weigh a lot of things and not be carried away by new p**y. Actually, so called “nice guys” are simply men who are quite shy and weak for women.
You are right bcz these guys usually have never even been in any another serious relationship before marriage, the thrill then becomes too much that they want to marry the side chick and bcz of child support , they prefer to eliminate the entire family to ensure that they get a clean break. You can imagine what kind of life you have to look forward to after divorce if you are paying child support of 2 or 3 kids from your exe and you get more kids with your latest catch and then you have to support them too. This child support has led to so many deaths.
These are the fruits of sexual liberation without social and economic safeguards. Divorce is usually damaging, and there is a way they make extra-marital sex quite an expensive and risky undertaking unless it’s with a pro, but even then, being caught is a nightmare. Apart from being destroyed in the public eye, in some states the cops even call the guy’s wife to come get him from the station. Ironically, all this is in the guise of protecting children.
I think whoever came up with this had very noble intentions to protect children. It makes no sense for kids to suffer poverty because their father is a dead beat its got nothing to do with sexual liberation rather accountability for the choices you make. Which is something men especially are not conversant with since they are used to getting away with abandoning their children. Even if a woman has kids inside marriage like in this case, the case of Chris Watts, the case of Scott Peterson and many more who were married and had kids inside marriage, that woman would have no safety net for her kids upbringing if child support laws weren’t there. Child support is there to protect rights of children and women, since both are vulnerable to being abandoned by men, husbands and fathers at a whim the biggest predisposer to poverty is single motherhood, even if a woman is married before having kids, she’s still at the mercy of the man without these laws on child support. It simply also acts as a deterrent from breaking families with no consequences for the man, since 99. 9% of deadbeat parents who have abandoned their offspring even those sired in marriage are men, so this is why the law exists.
Kids need support of course, regardless of whether the parents live together or not. But let me digress a bit. The divorce law hurts the man more, since he has to give half of what he has to the wife upon divorce. That bit is not about the children; it’s about the woman, and about keeping men’s appetites in check. You can imagine that by the time you delink from someone for good she has caused you lots of pain, and you have to part with half of what you have to give to her. She may even have done zero for the man as a wife, other than to shorten his life with stress.Then there is the type of woman who gets kids with 2 or 3 different men and each guy must pay child support for his kid, and sometimes these guys will meet as they come to pick/drop/ visit their kids. It’s a messy way of living, and it cannot be healthy to grow up in such a home. Polygamy has it’s evils too, but I think it would be better if their laws were to allow it.
BTW where does it say that you give up half of what you own? I think it’s if you have a home then it makes more sense to let the mom and kids to stay there and for the guy to move out. It doesn’t matter if women are intentionally getting pg to get child support, after all there’s plenty of men who also impregnate women with no intention of marrying or staying with them. Like Diamond. So it’s an issue of personal responsibility. Don’t have unprotected sex or any sex at all, for that matter with people you don’t want to have children with. If you played your part in impregnating or being impregnated I have no sympathy bcz you do know that sex makes babies and you know that you don’t want to be with this man or woman for the long haul yet you took no precautions to protect yourself. The intention of those laws is to give marriage and parenthood the seriousness it deserves bcz too many people take having sex and breaking up like drinking a cup of tea. Yet sex is a heavy responsibility.
There are ways they calculate what each person is worth, and it’ll be split in such a way that both man and woman get half in terms of value of the money and assets–things like houses, cars, bonds, debts etc. Now, where it gets bad is where the guy has invested a lot in these things yet the woman has to get what he feels is an unfair share of his money. Then the bitter child custody battles follow. He pays child support, and he may as well have to be making a long drive, bus or train ride occasionally to see his kids, and possibly run into the woman, whom he of course may not want to see, and perhaps the guy that replaced him, whom he obviously doesn’t care to know. With time the kids are likely to get so distant it’s not unusual to be refered to by some as “Lisa”, or “Joe”, rather than Mum or Dad, because the parent is practically a stranger. The divorce process may be legally streamlined, but it has repercussions that frighten some men so much that it’s not inconceivable for murder to appear like an option.
I don’t know what is more frightening than jail or death row
There is a point beyond which people cease to reason. I guess they usually think they’ve planned everything and covered their tracks so well they won’t be caught. In this case the guy must have thought no one would connect him to the murder, even going as far as setting up a cctv system at home and not connecting a recorder to it. He just couldn’t fool everyone.
You are about people who commit murder not reasoning. Any adult should know that if a person is killed the first suspects are the family and close friends. Unless you can make it look like an accident or a burglary or a natural death like dying in their sleep by using non traceable poisons, it’s extremely difficult to get away with murder. However I have no sympathy for anyone who refuses to take precautions to prevent pregnancy only to reject responsibility once the baby is born. Some say baby daddy was told that the woman was using contraceptives, they’re not 100% foolproof they also fail. If you cannot abstain then just use a condom it’s really simple. It’s comical for you to not use a condom then kill women and children and end up in jail. In this case the guy actually evaded police for years. He changed his identity, moved to another state and even remarried.
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