Yes, the submission men demand from women,is a mirror of how they submit to other men, on the totem pole of male hierarchy. The lower the man is on the hierarchy the greater the submission he demands from women. Why is there so much gender based violence in the slums? A poor man with no power among other males will take that frustration out on women! After being told you are special and superior just because you have a penis , then going into the real world and you are nothing is a precarious situation for the pampered male ego to find itself in and this is why we advise women to avoid poor men. They’re bitter. They hate women who have more than them. Remember that story of the girl who helped her brother’s poor friend by employing him at her shop then he emptied her accounts and dismembered her body? The rage is real. A hungry man is an angry man but I digress.
Women are not submissive they’re collaborative and this is why in a patriarchal society, women submitting is a song, if it came naturally , we wouldn’t hear it so often. It must be drummed into women because women are the real leaders. They’re the real providers and protectors. Look at single mothers. On the other hand, look at the state of the world under male leadership! It’s a complete mess!
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Men are submissive. And nothing proves it more clearly than this viral video of Pastor Ebuka. A couple came to his church, and Pastor Ebuka calmly stated that the husband had been physically abusing his wife. The moment he mentioned it, the man started performing—ranting, shouting, barking like he expected Pastor Ebuka to honor bro code and sweep his violence under the rug.
But to his shock, that wasn’t what happened.
Another man in the congregation stood up, walked straight to him, and whooped him with a microphone. No debate. No chitchat. No “let’s hear him out.” Just consequences.
And when the camera returned to the husbandit? Suddenly this same bandit was as docile as a house cat. His entire spirit rearranged, like the sassy little b——t.ch he is. His voice soft. His posture small.
“Yes sir… no sir…”
Tone humbled. Tone contrite. Tone submissive.
This is the part they don’t want women to notice: men know how to submit. They just reserve that humility for other men.
What they demand from women—silence, shrinking, obedience—they freely offer the moment a man checks them. They expect us to treat their voices like thunder, even when they’re loud, wrong, and dangerous. But let a man correct them, and suddenly submission becomes their mother tongue.
So what does this tell us?
Men are not incapable of submission; they’re strategic about it.
They submit where they fear consequences.
They dominate where they believe they can get away with it.
And that’s why they fight so hard against women’s independence and power. Because once women stop catering to the illusion of male authority, the mask slips—and the truth looks exactly like Pastor Ebuka’s viral video:
A violent man instantly humbled the moment a man, not a woman, held him accountable.
