Marriage advice for LADIES from those already in the can

Today in the woman sphere trending topic is what mistakes would married ladies advice the rest not to make in regards to marriage. I have always been giving married women advice never been on the receiving end so some advice is really shocking to me. If you ask me what I advise my married friends and acquaintances, all I say is vumilia ndugu, Maisha magumu wee, hivyo ndivyo ilivyo and it rains everywhere, why do I do that? Well, it’s because I know that when a woman’s fed up, she doesn’t consult anyone not even God so if she is still in consultation stage, she’s not ready to leave, she needs motivation to stay. Encouragement to ‘vumilia’ si mimi ni msmart. I never speak ill of marriage to married folk after all they never consulted me when they got married I dont know why they are asking for my advice now. Anyway ndio hizo advice for those still headed in that direction. This one here is the real insider trading. Experience is the best teacher gang. Other people’s experience.

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From the comments, the most common mistake is getting married while young(pre-25)naive in a way…hapo hujamaliza hata whoring stage…wewe unapatana na mtu pia hajamature vizuri… with time…you now mature…and the man you are married to cannot handle the new you…dem amejigundua…the marriage now fails because you become incompatible

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Kutunza pesa ati ni zetu

Being open about my cash

Haikuisha poa tulipanga kila kitu pamoja n ddnt have freedom of my cash/expenditure.
He wasn’t open to me either

Being too good and loving too much

kujifanya najua kuambia mtu vile nampenda all through…ndio nilijua Kenye inaitwa dharau

Being open abt your past and your family he will forever use it against you.

Sijaolewa but mi mambo ya kwetu sidhani nitakua naambia hus ju Kuna Dem friend yangu alikua ameolewa na mzee kwao kulikua na pesa sa wangekosana tu kidogo alikua anashida akimwambia vile amesaidia kwao akanunua ngombe na solar panel.

Showing him more styles of sex Aki uh will never go back to kifo cha mendeata heri ningewacha tu tuendelee kulaliana Kama wayahudi

Getting married it self is the biggest mistake.

being too supportive, trustworthy, reliable,too loving…etc DON’T LET THEM USE YOU

Being too faithful.

Loving too much,without back up…

Don’t trust too much…don’t love wacha moyo wako uwe wakusukuma damu

Please photocopy your heart na ubaki na original just in case.

Being extremely good,forgot my dreams& focused alone on my marriage,n trusting too much…saa hii niko single mum regretting my 7wasted years but si ni life.

Usiwahi vumilia umaskini, akiomoka madharau tupu na ata tafuta mwingine hajamuona alipokuwa maskini.

Kuvumilia umaskini in the name of kuna siku tutaomoka…my friend maskini ni maskini tu

Being sufficient,as in Kama hutaleta,I can provide,he didn’t learn to be responsible as expected

kufua ngodha issa NO

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Never entertain any kind of abuse.be it emotionally, physically or spiritually.

Praying for him to change …changed for worse left after 8yrs.

Grace Antony it usually happens like that,I dont know whythe more u pray for a cheating spouse the he more cheats mpaka anaanza matharau live live…watu waombee tuu watoto wao

If you are a step mum,just do the right thing and shut your ears coz hata uwalambe wapi,you will never satisfy them.

Sacrificing myself to them, whenever they needed someone to do something it’s me, later to know that they don’t love me,they are only using me.

Achaneni na mm ninyambe nikule chocolate kwa bed na nidoz.niendelee kuhustle uku gulf cz mimi marriage isaa no.ii kitu ni scam.ii kitu ni kitu ya uongo.ii kitu aijawai kua.ii kitu inaitwa ndoa ni urimo.wat I jst said is acheni ninyambe nilale.

Comments though… Ukweli tupu. Marriage is a big scam. Move out as early as possible

Kuvumilia 3yrs being breadwinner ati atapata job aomoke umaskini n.a. umalaya ziko WhatsApp group moja…
…nilijuwa shilingi yangu n yangu n.a. watoto pekee…u will never see me n ur Life time go dying

Don’t allow sex to make u a mother wen love hasn’t made u a wife

Dealing with a drunkard or bhangi is not easy.

Never hope the man will change,mbweha ni mbweha tu!

Don’t start what you can’t continue

Be real and set your boundaries from day one. Don’t ever change your goal post in the middle of the game. Ni hayo tu kwa sasa.