So there’s this married woman who feels nothing for the husband. Actually she is mad at him because he went out and got another woman pregnant around the same time that she had her last pregnancy, like the two women gave birth a month apart and he spent most of his time with the other woman because she was extremely well to do.
So from that point she just cringes when the husband wants conjugal rights. Eventually he broke up with the other woman because she was only after getting a kid and she is now dating another guy much younger than her baby daddy who is my frens husband. She was just using him to get a kid basically. She didn’t love him and at one point she even went to the police bcz the guy found her with a Ben ten in her house and got violent.
So basically for them to have sex the man has to force her. Like she doesn’t want anything to do with having sex with him. She’s still bitter about the other lady and after putting her through all that drama, he was dumped by the other lady and returned to his wife.
Unajua some dilemmas married women go through just leave you wondering what possible advice can you really give them. They see you peaceful and happy and they think that you have no problems so they come n pour their issues to you apparently they don’t tell each other for some reason. Sasa unashindwa what possible advice can you really give them kweli? You are a Christian so you can’t tell them to divorce. They go to the pastor he’s like you must give conjugal rights to your husband. But you can see that the woman is really bitter and matter of fact she is thinking of revenge by sleeping with some guy whose been making moves on her. As a Christian you can’t tell her to cheat on her husband if it will make her feel better and less hurt by the husband by getting even. Betrayal hurts but does revenge really make things any better?
Living together is a tough skill that many of us have not mastered. It is also a work in progress. Tell her to re-open that conversation with her hubby about the issue. And tell her there is no room for 3 people in a marriage so asishinde aki-kuuliza advice sababu hawezi muacha…
She has every right to be angry with him!!
Oh and B the way marital rape is real. My friends tell me about this stuff all the time…
She was really affected by the fact that he got another woman pg while she was pg. I think it’s the fact that he spent most of the time with the other lady during her pregnancy. Like he wasn’t there for her, he preferred staying with the other lady bcz she is really loaded. Men nowadays are so hypergamous that they will do anything for a woman with money including abandoning their family. Funny thing is that the two babies are girls and they look like twins. They are actually really close too. The dad introduced them to each other.
I never tell women to get divorced bcz it’s against the teaching of Jesus. I just told her to numb herself during the act like disassociate from her body. Till he’s done. But I adviced her against revenge by sleeping with another man. It will just add sorrow to her. I think from observation that in marriage you must turn a blind eye to alot of stuff. Just focus on what matters which is your kids. Everything else is really important a by the way.
Quite true, it must hurt so bad when you imagine he got you pregnant at the same time. Sounds like Samidoh’s dilemma to me. His 2 small kids are both agemates and we all know he prefers the much loaded Senator!!
This hubby of your friend sounds like he would have clung on…if he had not been dumped. Which simply means, he will find another one…BTW a friend of mine left her marriage a few years ago for the same reasons. Now she tells me she regrets leaving him…ati angevumilia…coz too much damage has been done now..their kids are miserable and none of them has re-married!!
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawa…
Men nowadays are the real gold diggers. You abandon your wife with a newborn baby bcz your rich side chick also had your baby? What kind of madness is that? I thought that if you are polygamous you try to balance both sides. Sure enough as you say the hubby is looking for a replacement for his wealthy baby mama. He was depressed when baby momma took on Ben ten. In Kenya if you have money you can have even 3 Ben tens at a go coz young men are financially hopeless. If they just smell money they become lap monkeys. Though they can turn dangerous if you dump them, I guess that’s why the side hen decided to get pg with a married man, so that it’d be easier to get rid of him.
2 Weeks after treating a Spousal Abuse Victim , She confided in me that the Home situation was “not too bad”…
Apparently …
3 days after the Assault , they had “Make Up S*ex” … [/SIZE]
[SIZE=5]Women are really strange creatures … [/SIZE]:D:D
Having sex with someone especially a husband is not a sign of love or forgiveness. It is a sign of coercion, trauma bonds and fear. She probably didn’t want to be beaten up again.
