B.E.T (Bonobo Entertainment Televison).
If the pastor is so foolish as to kneel before a woman, whatâs the congregation like?
Junguu Ndio FormâŚ
At pewa mkia na the next lady in the crowd
So that gesture of kneeling one knee is unacceptable as a romantic act to ask for a hand in marriage?
Itâs a Western tradition, which may be OK elsewhere, but in church kneeling is a worshipful gesture that should be reserved for God only. People are asked (or choose to) kneel for the men of cloth to lay hands on them, which may also be a problem, depending on how one interprets it. When you kneel in front of a person to ask for something (like a womanâs commitment to you) itâs a show of subservience, which I personally consider improper. No human being should humiliate himself/herself to be accepted. Her love should be something she chooses to give, not something you should be on your knees to ask for. Same way I donât expect a woman (or anyone for whatever reason) to kneel in front of me for anything. I would be embarrassed.
Okay Iâm curious how perhaps would you consider practical in asking for a ladyâs hand in marriage in African setting as an alternative to that western livity
some people are naturally shy, and became overwhelmed when subjected to such spotlight, and may tend to shut down. if you watched closely, the lady was terrified and felt out of place, and had to run and find sanity.
Hizi ni vitu mnafanya mkiwa wawili to prevent such embarrassment
You ask (not beg) her in private whether she will be your wife. If she says âyesâ, you agree with her when youâll bring your wazees to meet her wazees for the formal asking of her hand in marriage.
Hii upumbavu ya kujiaibisha kwa mall ama kwa restaurant tuwachie junguuz na Capote wao.
Tuoshe mechi na wafilipino.
My thinking is, you can ask from any situationâsitting together on the grass at a picnic, during a sweet moment at a sports event, when buying ice cream, as you pick a stray bit of fluff from her hair, when examining her beautiful nails, etc. Anywhere, doing normal things, but be sure sheâs in a cheerful mood and sheâs having fun. Donât make it a ceremony for anyone to witness, and donât kneel downâyou look like youâre begging. Suppose she says no?
Then you can take it with grace because your friends will not be waiting to photograph your disappointment, and she wonât feel pressured to answer immediately. Not answering immediately is not necessarily a refusal, so you donât have to feel like a loser if she says she needs to think about it. Itâs a serious request, itâs not a game. Sometimes it might even be a surprise she needs time to process.
Stupid people canât see lies mile away