@mundu_mulosi why do these top tier high value men who could have any woman in the world go for older ,less attractive women yet peasants like you are always setting standards ? Is there something these top tier men know that you bottom of the barrel don’t? I’d like to understand the thought process but I guess you are equally clueless innit?
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Why do some men with very beautiful wives end up dating washed-up old women?
It is one of the most baffling mysteries of human behaviour, how someone with a stunning, intelligent submitting wife ends up sneaking around with someone who seems like a downgrade in every way.
Is it about ego, attention, control, and sometimes, insecurity?
Some men feel overwhelmed or overshadowed by a beautiful, confident woman. They may crave someone who makes them feel powerful, admired, or unchallenged.
Millionaire businessman Andy Byron was caught on camera at a Coldplay show with his HR Chief, Kristin Cabot—but his wife, Megan Kerrigan, is beautiful, accomplished and high-flying.
I once had a chat with my father about this after my mother’s death. My mum was beautiful and exceptionally smart; she won a scholarship to study in America in 1975 but could not go because she fell ill.
My dad was very aware of my mum’s beauty, and one day he initiated a conversation where he said,
“Varume vane vakadzi vakanaka vanozozoonekwa vave kudya zvimukuyu mwanangu,” he said, laughing.
The meaning is even richer; he was joking that men blessed with stunning wives often end up being seen with “zvimukuyu” — small, tough, dry pieces of meat, symbolising less appealing, worn-out women.
I asked, “But why would anyone do that?”
He laughed even harder and said, “Anongo zorazora dovi pachimukuyu chake.” “He just keeps smearing peanut butter on his piece of dried meat.”
This is a rich Shona metaphor implying that the man tries to make something unappealing (zvimukuyu) seem enjoyable or palatable by covering it with something nice (dovi — peanut butter).
We all burst out laughing. I miss my dad.
Kristin Cabot, the Chief People Officer at Astronomer who appeared beside CEO Andy Byron during the viral “kiss-cam” moment, is 56 years old.
Byron and hisbeautiful wife are both 50. He was not chasing youth or beauty—his wife had it all.
So, in reality, he was cheating with an older and far less attractive woman compared to his wife.
Kristin Cabot is married to Andrew Cabot, another CEO, this is her second marriage. Yet at 56 she decides to cheat. There is no formulae to these things.
