I know with the popular culture where we watch movies and soap operas where people sleep with each other before they even know each others names, it’s hard to be in a romantic relationship and even a long term relationship with out sex with the oversexualization or hyper sexuality in society nowadays. It’s still possible though, I have been in 2 Yr and even 4 years relationship with no sex. My exes can attest to this. Our culture trivializes sex to the extent that now it is very normal to have kids with your boyfriend who your parents have never even met.
When I was growing up sex was strictly for married folk and I don’t remember any single mother among the people I knew unless the woman was widowed.
Those who talk about dry spell/ I can’t live without sex and we are using protection excuses don’t realize that sex is a very dangerous thing and you can end up with even cervical cancer if you sleep with a man who has the Human Papiloma Virus(HPV). God wasn’t a fool to say people should get married and stay faithful in marriage. It’s for our own self protection.
I date occasionally though I intend to stop going on dates completely once I have my youngins but I notice that most men my age have too much baggage. All related to having sexual relations to women, some have as many as 6 baby mamas. Others are on ARVs bcz of promiscuous living.
I know people will tell you that you should toa kutu and cobwebs but just know that the same people telling you how something must be wrong with you for abstaining will be the same ones calling you a hoe and blaming you for riding the cock carousel, getting HIV and being a single mother.
On Huduma day I had a date with my adopted son who is in his early thirties and a very godly young man, he was telling me that his peers were pressuring him to break his virginity. So pressure to sleep around with people who you have no business sleeping with is a very real issue in society. Society frowns at moral people who want to live a godly chaste life abstaining. The pressure is real.
What I can tell anyone who wants to embark on an immoral lifestyle is that you won’t get away scot-free. I have seen people I loved like my uncles suffer and die from sex back when HIV had just hit. All bcz of sex I have seen entire families wiped out and it has put the fear of God in me at a young age. You see some one who was as strong as an ox become a bag of bones. It was so painful.
So I am just warning you that if you don’t want problems in your life don’t do it. You may have been doing it before and God has protected you so far but it’s never too late to stop that bad lifestyle bcz God accepts U turns. Just stop. It is very possible and I am a witness. Don’t risk your life over sex. Trust me if HIV positive people can turn back the clock they would never have as much as kissed anyone who they aren’t married to. I’m not writing this with holier than thou. I’m writing this to warn you that you are seriously risking your health and life. Just stop. Don’t be deceived that everyone is doing it and you are missing out or you may die a virgin. The better for you to die as one you will get direct ticket to heaven.
Guys let’s encourage each other and the younger generation to flee sexual immorality and to know that they can date without getting involved sexually even in relationships lasting years. Your body your choice. If your bf/gf can’t accept it too bad for them. Just move on kwani?
Another terrible trend is sleeping with bosses and sugar daddies for money or jobs or promotions or trips. This is just prostitution. Let God provide and make a way for you. At times I see even married women prostituting themselves to climb the ladder. It’s so sad bcz the same bosses tell each other and the result also want to sleep with you. In fact they now feel entitled to your body. For someone like me they will not even come near bcz they know how principled I am in spite of being single. They will however humiliate married women riding cock carousel or boss carousel in front of people. Zero respect.
Sex is more trouble than it’s worth. If you want to be baggage free just give sex a wide berth. The key to a stress free life is abstaining. Just avoid going to private places with your dates/bfs/gfs and half the battle is won. You can’t be tempted if you are in public places. Life is so sweet to be destroyed by an act of 5 minutes.