Benjamin Zulu saving lives from 2020. Mimi ata divorcee staki. Beba mzigo wako don’t bring your mess in my life.
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One of the worst mistakes a woman can make is to get into an affair with a married man during her prime years of 25-30. Sexual relationships have been used to delay and destroy destinies since humanity was on earth. But this particular one is ten times more disastrous because of it’s timing.
As we established the other day, most ladies at 25 and 26 are psychologically mature but socially naive. They have no defined goal to settle in marriage nor a sense of urgency in their associations with men.
They’re dangerously casual and presumptuous at a time when they’re so visible to genuine seekers and devils alike.
Because they date in a hands off kind of way, they don’t investigate men keenly and with due diligence. So they’re easy prey for married men who make them fall in love by giving them the right kind of validation and support. But without any clear intentions. An awakened woman would immediately recognise and refuse the bait. But these women are usually drifting around hald awake. The man will offer support and although she knows he has a crush on her she will assume she can ‘handle it.’
If he knows she’s principled and resistant, he can act to be single, knowing that after she falls in love she will give in to sex. Because she will take it as a long term relationship, which always needs sex to keep it alive.
Sex is all married men are after. And if possible to possess and deflower another young girl besides his wife. It’s a twisted desire for conquest.
And they fear sly women because she has the capacity to turn the tables and exploit him.
So they go for sincere but naive good girls. They buy their time like a predator closing in on a prey. He knows once she trusts him she will fall in love sincerely and deeply and she will be helplessly at his mercies.
This is the story behind ladies who were known to be sound and self respecting then suddenly they shock everyone by bringing home a man who is not only several generations older than her, but also a married man. But since she has her child and, true to her principles, she never wanted to be a single mother, she tries to sanitize the situation by becoming a second wife.
The parents are often shocked and appalled, and, seeing that their daughter is enchanted and besides herself, they silently get into prayers and mourning the fall of her star.
She is not wicked though, she was just weak and unalert at a critical time in her life.
The whole thing is a quagmire that she will wade in, swinging between depression and confusion, until she decides to get out. Perhaps two decates later after her whole life has wasted.
Then she will pray that her destiny and life task will be assigned to her children. So she decides to at least raise the children right and with sound morals. She knows that she cannot defend or hide her involvement with a married man and so she cannot guide her own daughter. So the same children she had used as an excuse to marry him become the same reason she walks out.
Nothing has changed the scales have just fallen off her eyes, albeit too late in the day.
A good woman who slipped once and fell into mud and instead of fighting her way out she tried to make a home in that mire.
(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)