Mine we have raised them to be responsible and not to be scared of us. All electronic gadgets are accessed in the living room only. Not storos of being locked up in the room. Study room is in the spare room and always has the door opened.
We also monitor the content they access and have a word with them from time to time on the appropriateness of the music and movies in their possession. We sometimes get to hear from themselves how they perceive certain behaviors say like twerking. That is a better approach than constantly lecturing kids that will soon be teenagers. Wacha pia hao wareason and be there to guide their thought process.
Just don’t let things slide under the carpet. Make sure you constantly address these moral dilemnas. Equip them with the skills and self esteem to counter these challenges when in school. This homeschooling during the lockdown has been a blessing in disguise because I was able to drill these life skills.
Their mother could simply not hack- she means well by the way because women are generally wired more on the caring side. She has to check that the kids eaten, showered, wearing masks properly when outside (of course she has to be with them when in public), not touching their faces ( the 10 year old struggles with this one lol but he is learning), sanitizing after touching door handles etc etc. She stresses a lot how she has to keep them away from other kids at home and at the mall. Parenting haina manual and is a full time gig.
I used to follow him on twitter hadi ile siku alikuja TV show ya Dr King’ori nikajua yeye anaongea sana twitter juu ya low self esteem, kwa ground yeye ni beta male
Privacy is very important for a teenager. Allow your children room to discover the evil side of life in your own house. Once your son is past 13, allow movies with some bit of bad language only dont use bad language yourself. Let him know that this is common out there. Let him see it and get accustomed so that when he is in boarding environment he is already accustomed and doesnt suffer shock from exposture. If your son has not discovered porn by age 12, he is defective.
Kuna kitu inaitwa generational occupations. Unapata kama wewe ni carpenter watoto wako wanalean towards that kind of job. So if this holds constant being a bus conductor and to some extent deejaying is not what I would consider as their trajectory. Each to their own though.
If he ends up being a makanga he better be owning a fleet of matatus soon. Kama ni DJ aone vile he can be running or owning the damn club at some point. What’s most important are the values you instill in your kids.
But there are LIMITS.
Jana I saw a mum-dota chitchat where the dota was telling her mum eti ‘Wee enda home ukapikie dad’ nikashindwa hawa watoto was siku hizi WatafaK???
