Glad the world has noticed that we have a huge problem of men killing women in Kenya. Thanks BBC for highlighting this.
@Simiyu22 and those saying that Lynn Ngugi show is scripted and that Kenyan men are good people generally and such cases as the ones on Tuko and Lynn Ngugi show are rare like @Jimjones ,don’t see women happy out here and smiling in family photos, you do not know what goes on behind closes doors, like Gabby Petito who was showing the world happy couple videos did shortly before her boyfriend strangled her to death and dumped her body in the wilderness, let smiles not deceive you, there’s tears behind those smiles married women wear, lots and lots of tears and depression, the numbers are in over 40% of all women in Kenya who have been married or are still married have and continue to be physically, verbally, physiologically and sexually abused by the men they consider(Ed) their intimate. partners. Almost half the men are this way and we know GBV goes unreported most of the time so it can even be 70% or 80%. So @Simiyu22 I am not delusional, this is how Kenyan men are and it cuts across tribe, socio economic status and even religion.
Didn’t say Lynn Ngugi is scripted. Or gender violence doesn’t exist. However you certain cases are one sided. Remember she hosted a a dude who claimed his wife abandoned his kids and story changed when she was contacted. Plus many more eg bro/sis who were having relations. You see drama makes news. You know this from your blogs/newsreels. You wouldn’t want to hear about Kalonzos marriage. But Rutos’ makes news with his many side kids and wife abuse. And Gabby Petito was being abused by mzungu man you so worship.
There’s a difference between preference and worshipping. I prefer white men to our apes, I worship ONLY God.
My friend, I have helped a few people who asked for help via Lyn, so I do not think that it is acting… What I have said before is that there are extremely wicked men and women as there extremely good people in Kenya.. One has to pray and open their eyes before getting into marriages… The world is also extremely wicked and hopeless now and many people are getting depressed… Carry out more discreet studies and you will know that there are some married women whose marriages are pure paradise…
I wouldn’t say some I’d say a few. Most women I’ve come across have nothing but complaints. It’s like is a necessary evil to them. But don’t you think that these numbers are high? Our society has a problem. We can’t sweep it under the rug anymore by saying that some women have good marriages. The black man never advances bcz he never learns and grows from his mistakes he prefers denial and escapism. Do you know any white community where even a quarter of the married or in relationships are being killed and abused? @Simiyu22 let’s face it, Kenya has a problem - the men. You can hear what they were doing in the discussion in the documentary.
There are cultural problems certainly… Those white people have made it their culture to divorce and not kill wives (of course that happens too)… Kitambo, there was violence on women too but not in the numbers that we see… I agree with you 100% that it is not justifiable and that it is a reality to consider…I personally cannot see why I can lay my hand on a woman for whatever reason unless in self defence… But many men think that it is a show of power… Why not divorce and she is not a husband’s personal property?
I have watched the video. And I m glad it starts with Meru. We were told huko ni perfect society. Hakuna cheating , wife beating etc. But let’s make it clear. I accept there’s gender violence. In fact it’s even present in my family. Now people who abuse kids is another level. Those are sick people and need to be confined for life and released only after chemical castration. But is every man an abuser. No. Even the narrator said he grew up and wasn’t exposed to such. The statistics are on abuse are present somewhere. Personally when you say a quarter I can immediately look at my family and don’t see such numbers. So who knows. Part of the problem is lack of enforcement. People abuse and not brought to book. So they keep doing it. Unfortunately that’s African society. We are not stickler for rules. Once we violate, we look for ways around to resolve. In Advanced societies there’s no negotiation. Can you believe people rape in the reserve and then a bunge is constituted for resolution. Such should be outlawed.