January is here, unfortunately, on both 1st and 2nd, my neighbor here in city lost a son, my friend lost sister in law with huge bill left behind, I lost my first cousin. All genuine causes to support.
Those aside.
Case 1. That relative in the village who grew up despising me and tarnishing my name (wivu coz I succeeded) sends a cousin (shameful to approach me directly) to borrow money on his behalf to pay for the fees of a grandson under his care (a politician dodged his pledge to be paying). Those relatives who thrive on walking around with politicians and getting handouts.
Case 2. A colleague i worked with in another job many years ago rings out of the blues- he wants a cash handout to take kid to school
Case 3. A sister in law wants a loan of 8K (u know that’s a gift if it goes)
Case 4. A bro in law wants a loan of 3k (likewise you know its a gift).
How do you people deal with all these?
I am a self made man, I have an ok job, but got needs too, I have my family to take care of first (hata mimi sina full fees to pay upfront). But everyone believes I have enough to spare just because am most educated in the family. When I was struggling through life including campus, no one came through, instead many were mocking my parents.
How do you politely tell these people off.