50 % of all marriages end up in divorce at least in the developed world where they take statistics?I can posit the divorce rate hovers around 30 % for Kenyan urban marriages. So when you say that marriage works, what are you basing it on?
Oficial divorce figures in Kenya are actually very low. I think they are among the lowest in the world.
Its fine if you are a cuck. 99% of men would instinctively kill(if the state would let them and they were able to) If they saw their women getting fucked. material acquisition, possessiveness, jealousy, lust, greed and other human traits are hardwired in the human brain except yours. even primates which we are closely related share some of these traits but apparently you are the exception, the outlier!
your definition of marriage is going to the church and ‘monogamy’? Apparently according to you the African and pagans had no concept of marriage before Christianity :D:D and everyone shared women ? It hasn’t occurred to you that adultery was worse than murder and had the worst punishments-a painful death in most societies and in fact it ranked second to treason in advanced civilisations and religions
family is a pillar of society & without it there would be chaos. The black Americans & the lower mindro class have been the first test rats & casualties of the so called ‘progressive’ ideas.
Dr Herod III, Senior Kenyatalk Analyst & visiting fellow of The Mogoka Base school of government
No I am saying the “standardized lifelong monogamous brand of marriage” is from Europe. Hujui kusoma? My ancestors had a very different brand of Marriage. Actually all the males in my lineage had multiple wives. My grandpa had 4 or 5 wives and several concubines. My great grandpa had even more. Infact my great grandpa was so active, hadi I have a grandfather who is just a few years older than me.
Other societies had other arrangements. And people born into those societies followed those arrangements.
Probably. I’m willing to bet that the majority of people nowadays are either single parents, or come-we-stay arrangements. Formal marriage with a wedding and all is definitely in the minority now.
Waaaaaaaaait one minute! did you get married to get someone to cook your meals, mind your laundry as in generally do the housekeeping chores? nothing else at all?
They are low because you can marry 2 wives. Nada else. Stats za kuwachana ni zile zile tu. So many miserable married women…hence the increased Ben10 manenos.
A mboch he can fuck guiltfree, basically :p:D:D
:D:D:D me I tell you…Jamaican accent pls. At least he was honest…a dude friend told me a few months ago that he married the girl so that he can get such stuff done…na ako somewhere majuu.
I felt so sad…when he outlined what she does for him while holding down a normal day job.
What can I not take anymore? Peace of mind and freedom? Do you know whose pillow has the most tears in this world? Married women. That is the most stressed, bitter, HBP, Ulcers ridden, HIV infected, loan borrowers, depressed and suicidal demographic. Not even single mothers. Let me tell you the truth the only time I cry is in the presence of God. I can’t remember the last time I cried other than if someone has died or I am praying. Or I have laughed until I cried. The tears of women are bcz of men and children. When they break your heart. What else can make a woman cry? Sincerely speaking single life is so relaxed and stress free. You have time to develop interests, read, travel, write, basically be an individual. You don’t have to call your husband b4 you can even make any small decision. It’s a very nice life, that a times I wish I knew, I would have been that way from the beginning and never as much as dated anyone. If I wanted to I could adopt, some of my single friends with no biological kids and don’t want to be single mothers bcz it goes against our Christian faith adopted but it’s never felt right4me. I will not say I do not have kids bcz I don’t like kids like how I see other child free women saying. I am a very motherly person, everyone including my parents tell me that and I do love children. I love them soo much I don’t want them to see me miserable or be miserable themselves bcz I had children with a guy who ends up being a thorn in my flesh like I see so many married women going through. So basically I am risk averse when it comes to anything to do with a man in the mix. I’m very daring and I take risks in other areas but from what I have seen women I know go through , I will not be taking any risks as far as men are concerned. It’s not worth the irreversible damage and the destruction in their wake.
I am happy with the little contact I have with kids when they visit and I am also happy with the adult life that I live that women with kids can’t , I can have delicate things with no fear they will be broken, I can do whatever I want with my time, my money, my living space. The reality is that if I want to be pregnant or even married by 2022, I can make it happen, in fact pregnant by December, I have enough offers of people who know if their kid has me for a mother they’ve hit the jackpot. I’m a devoted Christian, I don’t drink, I don’t fool around with men, I have good extended family and social support, even as a single mother, my child would be very lucky but somehow it’s like the longer you are single child free the more it’s a comfort zone, you can’t even imagine life being different. But I don’t say never bcz if say God forbid something happened to my siblings and I was all their kids had left, I’d certainly adopt them and raise them. Single life grows on someone after many years it becomes a normal part of your identity mpaka you don’t want to accommodate others bcz you are so used to having things your way. For example, I have very hard time falling asleep away from home, my home, because I am so used to it being a certain way I like it, the lighting, the comfort, small things like how I like my tea, I can’t drink tea and enjoy it unless it’s got cardamoms and alot of milk, Chai China it’s called. There’s a way I like my biryani, the way I like my mokimo, as in I don’t have to make compromises to accommodate anyone else so I am accustomed to everything exactly how I like it. Sasa changing from that to start being accommodating some body else of the opposite sex plus their relatives is hard and it gets harder with every day. Plus I have several much older single child free friends and relatives who have no children and no boring missionary sex. So we share community with them. We travel together. We obsess about things married people with kids have no time for like our passions and hobbies. Thanks to social media we can join other people from anywhere in the world who share our interests like true crime, like books, like decorating, culinary arts, baking, collecting tupperware, antics, art, music. I know it’s hard to believe but marriage or parenthood is not the be all and end all of life. The world is filled with interesting things and people and when you are single and have no children you can explore all those options. The best part is that you get really close to God bcz it’s you and Him against the world, you don’t have a husband or children to worship and idolise. Just you and God. You don’t have a scapegoat for what you don’t like about your life bcz it’s all up to you to do what it takes to be happy and find fulfillment and happiness and love and beauty in your life. You don’t have a husband to blame for your unhappiness. If you are not happy. You feel very child like, pure and innocent. You don’t feel the pressure to do unethical things to get ahead for the sake of your kids. So alot of nasty stuff people who have kids consider justified for the sake of their kids, bypasses you. Like sleeping with bosses to get ahead or get a payrise. You would be shocked the kind of evil people do for the sake of their children. I heard of a woman who slept with a principal to secure her son a place in a prestigious school. Marriage and parenting is a brothel, for the right price most parents and spouses can do anything to get ahead or even out of spite when betrayed. Single people don’t have those problems.
So nxt time when you are noting down what you think are the negatives remember that everything has an upside otherwise we would all be rushing to be 5th wives to Atwoli it it was as bad as you make it out to be. It has very many positives but as social animals we don’t like voicing a contrary opinion to the majority in society. We quietly enjoy our lives and pity you when you struggle, when you are hurt, when you are frustrated in those marriages but we keep quiet and just thank God it wasn’t us in your shoes.