Wadau Iam highly introverted and this thing I think is affecting my social life, The only place I interact with human beings is when I am at work and on my way back to my apartment from work( I don’t even talk, I just board and alight) then into my apartment.
I spend my weekends inside my bedsitter from friday alone, I don’t even converse with my neighbor, the only time I go outside is when i feel hungry buy food then back to my comfort zone. The only person i converse with maybe once a month is my younger bro who lives miles away from me.
I am not in any romantic relationship because i dread the whole process of approaching girls, I have tried changing but then again i find myself back in my small room comfort zone, I spend my time in the Internet, youtube Twitter e.t.c
Is this a disease? Guys I need your advice, how can i Change
are you introverted or suffering from a life-changing and shocking shock event that gave you ptsd. There is a difference between being an introvert and being traumatised. I know some introverts and i have never heard one complain about their condition
Jaribu (Pombe)making friends at your local bar while watching football ball.Chokoza dame ukiwa high pata namba,call also when high.Alcohol makes you social but don’t overdo it.
Tafuta kitu inaitwa Crystal meth and inhale it. You will be singing to the neighbours like a choir and you will never be lonely again.
wewe ni kusota inakusumbua
Ulijulia chrystal meth wapi? Unataka kusema vitu kama hizo zishafika Kenol Murang’a?
:D:D:D ulichunishwa skuma kama ule jamaa wa cyber?
I found someone using hemp in mumias. Usifikirie otato ndio iko na kila kitu
tafuta msichana young neighbor uwe unamualika supper mara moja weekly
Take pride in being one we all can’t be social butterflies.
Kama inakusumbua sana anza na small steps, just say hi hapo mtaa - gotea soja kwa gate, neighbor kwa stairs, food kiosk, supermarket cashier ( without too much expectation)…then next time anza small talk etc
Enda kanisa na uokoke. Join the choir. You will have lots of friends and probably fall in love.
Start by making small progress. This is how I do it, mtu wa mahindi huwa tuna discuss epl, mtu wangu wa nyama pia huwa tuna have talks, mtu wa samaki same, mama mboga same, mtu wangu wa melon same etc etc caretaker same. Huwezi kosa watu, jitume brathe
He has deleted that boarding school comment…ni kama ni ukweli that he was “pinched kales” there.
That’s why I said he is traumatized not an introvert. He needs to find his tormentor and talk to him. In another matter, entirely unrelated to the issue of discussion, 99% of all crimes go unsolved. It’s just that holyweird programming teaches that with csi all crimes are solved in a week or less
Wewe you are just broke.
Back off the internet kidogo. Else you might be sucked in more and more. The internet is a whole new world by itself and it can be a dark place. Start by saying hi to your neighbours, caretaker etc…you also have to try. Chat air and gas to colleagues too…
If you are shy or reserved, it will be difficult to make friends in your neighborhood, especially if you live in apartment buildings where people keep to themselves. As social as I am, I don’t know who my neighbours are because I don’t see them and they don’t bother too.
You probably want to try out other social settings, such as organized activities, e.g
sports. I found out that this was the most effective way to meet new people and mingle.
Kama sio mashida zinakufanya ukuwe ivo, kama ni nature yako you are okay… Mimi niko ivo pia… The only place I interact with people is KTalk in the comments sekshen… Mimi ata hakuna neighbour tumewai juana
Sorry to hear that, but this is a situation where you’re robbing yourself of your life. Give your smart phone away and get a kabambe, what would be a good start. Also go out there and talk to random people about random things no matter how weird. Start by going to churches and learn to be comfortable being around people you don’t know. Get a cheap extroverted hobby eg walking, jogging and spend most of your time outside your bedsitter. Go to any restaurant and sit there, order water or something cheap from the menu and get comfy just looking at people. Reach out to old primary and high school or university friends. You have to get comfortable with getting out of your comfort zone. You can’t get a quality girlfriend without a social structure, so start reaching out. It will be uncomfortable at first but you’ll get used to it after a few weekends out and about