Him and his baby mommas are all from single mom homes, so maybe marriage isnt a priority. He went to maternity for all his kids and he is present in all his 4 kids lives.
Disclaimer: I dont advocate for shacking up and having kids outside marriage. All the children in my extended family were born in marriage so this lifestyle is as foreign to me as living in Alaska. I wanted at one point to be a single mom of a junguu donor but I backed down after I spoke to my pastors even though I was at an advanced stage, my doctor Prof can confirm that I backed down with no explanation to his shock since he was going to make a cool 600k from the procedure this is minus importing junguu donor seed which was like 400k . So you can be sure that I dont endorse his lifestyle at all at all.
I believe that if Maureen or even Corazon insisted on marriage Franky would have come through . He’d have tried marriage. I dont know why people blame him yet the ladies didnt have conditions for having his kids. I’ve had men ask me to move in with them and to have their kids and even marry them but I was like its not a fit for me. Because I am the determinant, its not the man to tell me what to do but If I go along, great! For the man. What is he losing? Let’s stop blaming Franky. Franky isnt an alcoholic. He’s very disciplined. He’d have probably made a great husband but nobody demanded it from him.
Ati disciplined? You are confusing maintaining a clean image with real discipline l.
You know the reason Kwamboka dumped him is because he wasn’t paying bills. Dude doesn’t have a real job. When his kids with Maureen got sick, he didn’t contribute to their hospital bills. Even the house they lived in with Maureen was his mothers house. A 40year old man doesn’t live in his mothers house once he gets kids. Jamaa is not serious with life.
Who was he living with before these women had children for him? Alot of 40 year old men are living in women’s houses not even their mommas, their sugar mommas, their wives. Women know that these guys dont have jobs or serious businesses, why did they both have not one but two kids with him? Maybe they wanted his good genes and everything else didnt matter. I can not have kids with a junguu sperm donor I picked out of a catalogue over his looks and heritage then I come to complain about hospital bills and paying househelps.
Let’s not blame Franky , Franky is a momma’s boy and he has never misrepresented that. He expects the women in his life to take care of him and his children like his old mother has always done. That’s not being a bad boy that’s living life on his own terms. He doesnt have to have a job if his mom can pick up the slack. Kwamboka and Maureen expected his mom to be their husband but she’s only one woman and theres only so much she can do.
This is the epiphany of a male failure. These are not good genes. Trust me I know a lot of male leeches, and on the outside the families may look put together, but on the inside the women and children are suffering.
Of course he doesn’t drink because he can’t afford it. On whose bill would he drink.
Drinking has nothing to do with affording that’s why there’s why there’s so many alcoholics in a poor country like Kenya. His focus is on being fit and being a pretty boy. His passion is fitness. In Kenya that dont pay. His mom has been singlehandedly doing everything why cant his baby mommas? Their own mothers have done the same. Probably why they got pregnant outside marriage. They saw the signs its not like he lies to women about what he does for a living. These women knew the mother will pamper their kids the way she pampers Franky.
His kids are part of him so if I have no qualms about doing everything for his kids why should I have problems raising their father? Its like having a house husband.
I have passions and skills that pay, but I don’t try to live off them, because it would be extremely difficult. The guy has a convoluted understanding of life.
There’s myriads of men like that , just that you are not privy , in Kenya there’s over 5 million unemployed men, most are graduates. The ones whose parents can give them a good life live off their parents and women and they have kids. This is why that lady who was burnt died she tried to leave a man who was her dependant.
And you are the one who preaches about only being with a man whose an upgrade of you. No downgrading???
Kenya is a double income household country. One income, you will barely get by, especially if you have kids. Don’t matter if you are a lawyer.
This is why I am single with no children, Im too lazy to raise a man and his children. I know myself so I know my limits but Im cognisant of the fact that other women are happy to be sugar mommies like @purple . I was told that she’s happy now and Im jeolous of her . Which goes to show you the general attitudes of black men in Kenya or of Kenyan origin, women are their slaves and servants . They always looking for a wealthy woman to marry so that they can climb the socio economic ladder. Myself I prefer leaving my wealth to my brother and his children in my father’s blood line than go to enrich another family in the name of marrying these lazy Kenyan men who want to live off women . I was only willingto do so for a junguu which is an upgrade . But I still figured its too much of a heavy load since I dint grow up seeing women raising kids singlehandedly. The men of my family always provided how will I now be a sole provider and I could have gotten triplets with that procedure even. Me I cant , if I give my own brother 10k naskia nafinywa, how about raising two kids and their father? Not even a junguu at that? Siwesimeki.
Went to visit a friend, Kufika estate, I bumped into a old neighbor from over 30 years. No job, 4 kids. Just hanging outside. And his dad had some money to put him through private school. My friend told me the whole estate is full of such…women taking care of families. Nilishangaa sana.
This unemployment thing is mainly self inflicted. We are a classist society, so people will not pick up a menial job to hold them down while they search. There are plenty of jobs in industrial area kwa wahindi. People open and close businesses all the time and need workers. But you can’t tell someone with a law degree to get such a job while he waits, they won’t accept. Trust me on that.
Anyway if you get time, watch this guy, he says Kenya has a problem with stealing, for one. You see someone unemployed for years, he has a problem.
People must have children even in a time of war , so women have to pick up the slack those who say no to this like me are called selfish feminists. Men are so entitled nowadays why work hard if you can get a woman to give birth to your 4 children,house and feed them while you just chill? Kwani where are these women getting money from? Theyre working hard ! And if you try to take your kids and leave such a useless man its like you are a single mother , scorned by society and then the man kills you and kills himself because he has nothing left to live for unless he can find another sugar mommy FAST. Mimi the moment I see these signs I just block you and move on . Theres no way I am going to harbor a grown man in my house ati in the name of marriage. The most I can give any man is 10k. Beyond that I kent. Stay in your mommas house , me I stay in my house with many empty rooms, if I feel sufficiently philanthropic I will get a pet or adopt . A grown man with beards living off me. TAWE!
When you first meet a man, within a couple of dates, should be able to tell. If still that clueless, in the dating phase you can tell his character. My cousin invited me for lunch and to say hi to her new guy. But got to her door, I found the had pangad his shoes. The latest fashion shoes he had on. Now seriously is this marriage material? Let’s just say he was another leech with a messed up life, I had to get my other cousins to help evict him.
Kwani she had moved him into her house? OMG. What is wrong with women nowadays you cant just date someone without moving him into your house? And where are her parents ? Dont they visit her to know if the girl has a man hidden in her house? There’s a big problem with our women , what are you doing moving a man INTO YOUR HOUSE? WHAT!!!
Dating a useless guy out of feelings is one thing but then moving him into YOUR house and you even have the temerity to introduce him to your family members? You should be hiding him like drugs nobody in your family should know of his existence. That’s like a Mpango Wa Kando. You HIDE him very seriously. Its only God and Satan who should know that you are dating such people because its a bad habit like chewing miraa, it needs to be hidden until you get rid of it.
Power gani? Do you take a prostitute and move her into your house or unampeleka Airbnb na unamwacha huko? Women need to learn how to compartmentalise. Malaya sio mtu wa kumove into your house, if its mjulus chukua huko nje ukienda zako. You cant take a chokora home ati ni mjulus imekutuma.
Unemployment is not self inflicted. It really pains me when i read such. I used to help place some of my most vulnerable students into vibarua and most would go months without pay…the lucky ones would get 10-15k…hardly enough for transport.
I have worked in “industrial area” first at pyrethrum then later at a printing press. At pyrethrum they used to take 20 casuals per day for a pay of 400bob…200- 500 men would turn up every morning…only 5 would be picked…the rest have already been prepicked…among them we had relatives of the bosses…and those ones who could bribe.
If you tried to get a more stable position in such an environment you would have to cough a big bribe. Then we had the supervisors. No supervisor wanted degree holders, themselves certificate and diploma holders…and if you tried to hide your qualifications inachukua tu 1 week for your brilliance to show…utatafutiwa makosa utoke…ask anyone who works inda atakusho
At the printing press same thing. I was lucky the owner was a family friend…anyone else who need3d a job there had to either part with a hefty bribe, money you hardly have…or open their legs ( ladies) for the managers. We are currently handling such cases at my current place of work concerning our subordinates.
I recently took charge of some national survey…most of the enumerators were women…yet men turned up in large numbers for the interviews…you follow up with HR and it becomes clear that whatever criteria used for recruitment greatly favoured women…its the same even for the big posts. The other option is business…try that as a hustler utuletee hekaya…those of us who have had opportunities and luck tusidharau maboy wanaumia mtaa
