If the wife family is rich than yours, the marriage won't work; Amerix

[rayoo]

@Azor Ahai

Wakikuja kwako utawafukuza?? Wakipata msiba ama sherehe hutaenda after being invited?? You can’t avoid in-laws kijana. They are family too.

The only person who will deal frequently with your family is their daughter, not them.

are these events frequent?

[Azor_Ahai]

@rayoo

and when you prove to be a reckless fool nothing gets transferred

Exactly. Its never yours until its under your ownership. That’s why nashangaa watu hapa talking about rich and poor families as if it matters. What matters is what you, as an individual, own. Mali ya family sio yako.

[Uzo]

Wrong.

The truth is nearer to what @Azor Ahai just said. People judge a man based on his capacity. If you’re a poor ghaseer your background doesn’t matter. People will treat you with a certain contempt. And not just your wife, but your own relatives.

[nelo_angelo]

@Azor Ahai

That’s not true.

What matters ni vile wewe binafsi kama mwanaume uko kimfuko, sio vile family yenyu iko.

You can be wealthy individually despite coming from a peasant family.

Usiogope kuoa dame wa Runda. In fact, those are the best type of women. Bora wewe binafsi usikuwe peasant.

People judge YOU, not your family. After all, your in-laws will hardly ever meet your family. It’s you they will interact with frequently.

The best example ni hawa rich politicians of ours. Many of them come from peasant backgrounds but you find ppl from rich families kissing their behinds. Vile umesema, ukiwa na doe hakuna mtu atakushow kitu.

[Slim_fit]

This is common knowledge everywhere.

[Simiyu22]

@Ndekwe

Hapo kuna ka ukweli. Si niliwashow Kuna boy wangu hapa alioa consultant Dr. Whose family is well off. Siku ya graduation celebration ya the younger brother to the lady, boy wangu kazi yake ilikua kutumwa maji na masoda kwa supermarket na kusimamisha tents

Looks like your boy was an errand man to that family before that day. Trust me he wasn’t transformed that morning. Jamaa saw money and decided to make himself useful, in the least possible way. Walikua wanamrushia ka 500 hundred hapa na pale akiwasaidia. Akazoea.
Wewe jiulize, why would a grad gladly perform shamba boy duties.

You reap what you sow.

[Old_Monk]

@Ndekwe

Hapo kuna ka ukweli. Si niliwashow Kuna boy wangu hapa alioa consultant Dr. Whose family is well off. Siku ya graduation celebration ya the younger brother to the lady, boy wangu kazi yake ilikua kutumwa maji na masoda kwa supermarket na kusimamisha tents

Kuna shida gani si ni bro in law.

[messiahette]

Vanity of vanities; in the end you die and your memory is soon forgotten.

[kizazaa_cha_mboro]

@cortedivoire

Only a weak man can’t tame his woman.

[vixi]

@rayoo

wana interact na wewe frequently kwa nini?

Wanafaa kuinteract na mimi minimally.

[eddy_mahelo]

there are always exceptions but its very advisable you marry from your social class… not too high…not too low…

[sparkly]

@Ndekwe

Hapo kuna ka ukweli. Si niliwashow Kuna boy wangu hapa alioa consultant Dr. Whose family is well off. Siku ya graduation celebration ya the younger brother to the lady, boy wangu kazi yake ilikua kutumwa maji na masoda kwa supermarket na kusimamisha tents

:D:D

[Kodiaga]

arranged marriages huhakikisha wealth inaenda kwa generations to come so matajiri huchaguana

[Masood]

I love the comments. Keep the conversation going.

Now, my thoughts, I think lots of wisdom came from our cultures.

You are gold to fear even a dog belonging to your in-laws. You are also told not to talk much, eat a lot or stay long at the inlaws.

Wahenga had already realized that familiarity breeds contempt. You keep an arms length from inlaws. Keep relations formal and respectful. Ensure that some things cannot be said to you.

That is very important. Kisha you also work hard as a man and have some net worth.

I loved the comment about family level poor siblings being mistreated. It has happened to me being used as an errand boy for well off siblings who provide finances.

Hata sister in-law Moja akanipa msomo about what am I because I used to tell her of people I knew, mabigshit wa siasa.

When fortunes changed k saw lots of shame on the faces of these same relatives. I can say all of my family. I learnt mwanaume ni kujutuma kivyako. Na people respect wealth and independence.

[Titty_Twister]

@captain obvious

Mi kuna time nilikua na fling na muchichana wa Karen, mali safi flani nilichokoza FB kimzaha. Living room yao ilikua kubwa kushinda nyumba yetu yiiiiote buana. Huyo ningeoa ningeondokea masaibu ya 9k salo lakini ningekua nalia ndani ya Range Rover. She was a hoe juu aliingia box haraka mpaka nikashangaa. Alafu baadaye akanielezea her past sexcapades na bado ni mtoto wa 22 nikajua hii ni ya kurarua na kuondokea.

Kwanza hakuna kitu mbaya kama msichana anagawa roho safi, sio ati anafanya umaliar ndio apate pesa. Akikupenda anakupa coomer bila ku-straggo. Huyo nilipiga hesabu nikajiambia akiwa khupipi si anaeza kuwa akileta wanaume wamdinye nyumbani na hakuna kitu utafanya juu huna ata pesa sauti.

:D:D:D:D
Ulipewa coomer ya ghorofa ukaingia embobut?

[muiritu79]

@captain obvious

She was a hoe juu aliingia box haraka mpaka nikashangaa

You are the problem.

[Azor_Ahai]

@captain obvious

Huyo ningeoa ningeondokea masaibu ya 9k salo lakini ningekua nalia ndani ya Range Rover.

Wrong.

Yeye ndiye angeondokea maisha ya ubabini akujoin kwa bedshitter mteseke pamoja.

Only women can marry into wealth. Usifikirie father in law atakupea mali juu umeoa msichana wake. Mali yote anawachia ndume zake not the peasant freeloader who married his daughter. Wazee sio wajinga buana.

Kijana unataka kupewa bibi na upewe mali? :D:D

[mentor]

Respect even in the olden days were accorded to men with many cows,wives and huge tracts of land, etc.
Nothing has really changed, as a man you need to be worth more to command respect!
The idiot should have avoided such events,

[Hesabu]

Mwanaume anapendwa na Mungu na mamake (maybe father)… everyone else only hangs around you because there’s some value they gain. Harsh but true. Ujanja ni kumake sure pia wewe you get something reciprocal out of your social relations or if you can’t, then at least pay the lowest amount possible in terms of money and time. Also, avoid wanawake Wana pesa kukuliko or you will suffer the consequences like a fool

[ugali_ya_jana]

@Azor Ahai

Huyo boy ni peasant so haheshimiwi :D:D:D:D

Whether we like it or not, men are only respected based on their financial achievements. When two men meet huwa tunaulizana what do you do for a living.

That’s the harsh reality of being a man. You MUST become a somebody…respect is not automatic.

I have attended many events and the only difference between me seated in the tent drinking soda and the peasant sitting in the blazing sun was that I “looked” rich. So hata ukifika late unaelekezwa kwa hema tuu just because of the car you drive or how you dress. Usiwahi danganywa na mtu…image matters ALOT.

people address you by how you dress, hapo umesema ukweli mdau