I hold these truths to be self evident 🧐

Sex & Relationships
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1.I am a feminist.

  1. I believe the word submission should only be used in relation to slavery.

  2. I do not believe in relationships that are based on gender hierarchies. I believe in relationships where people treat each other with mutual respect.

  3. If someone wants to be a leader, they should run for a political office. Calling your wife a running mate :triangular_flag::triangular_flag:

  4. Men are not superior to women.

  5. Pouring into a person who does not pour back into you is not love but a sign of self hate and low self esteem.

  6. Financial equality should be followed by domestic equality. If you are contributing financially in a household and still playing the role of a traditional wife, you are a submissive provider.

  7. You should always find his house completely clean. If it is dirty, you should not take that as a sign to start cleaning but as a sign to go home.

  8. A person who cannot maintain a clean home is not self sufficient enough to be in an adult relationship. He should be taken back home to his parents for proper home training.

  9. There is a difference between doing things for a person because you love them and doing things because you believe they are a man and certain duties are not meant for men.

  10. Cooking for men and scrubbing their jeans will not make them treat you better. Please do not go out there to audition for love. Your value as a person does not originate from how much labor you can do.

  11. Women do not submit naturally when they meet a good man. They submit naturally because they were indoctrinated since childhood to believe that a man must lead. They submit naturally because they subconsciously believe men are superior to them.

  12. There’s a difference between giving someone the benefit of the doubt and being delusional and blind to red flags. Known deadbeats, Kevos and brayos, and guys with a history of being abusive :triangular_flag::triangular_flag::triangular_flag::triangular_flag::triangular_flag::triangular_flag::triangular_flag:

  13. Selflessness is not only a covert form of selfishness but it is also a form of self hate that sets you up for suffering. Be self preserving. You are not Jesus.

  14. A man who sleeps around when he is single, is most likely going to sleep around in a relationship and in marriage as well. People are either disciplined or not. Commitment does not fix behavioral issues. Stop ignoring h0 behavior.

  15. Celebrating a 3 year anniversary when you have been through 30 heart attacks and 15 cheating scandals is clown behavior.
    That is not extending each other, grace. Extending each other (grace) does not include subjecting yourself to harm, neglect, tears, and pain.

  16. Love yourself more than you love the idea of having a man in your life.

  17. The people and the relationships you entertain in your life are a reflection of how much you respect yourself. Penda watu lakini usisahu kujiheshimu.