I am a woman... So what?


So what?

I get into an argument with a man, he slaps me, I feel the pain, yet they tell me I provoked him. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him.

I get into an argument with a man, I slap him, they tell me I have no respect, no home training. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him.
Because I am a woman, I don’t have a right to be angry. So, the degree of my innocence is directly proportional to the degree of my silence in the face of oppression and brutality…

Because I am a woman, my husband cheats on me, I am told to tolerate it to save my marriage. The barbaric and stupid excuse is that ''it is in their nature to cheat, I should slim down, dress better, cook better, pray harder and be more pleasant to him"

I cheat, and I am called a whore, I have committed an abomination, I have no right to look elsewhere for the love and emotional support I lack at home, I am an irresponsible mother.

So I am sent packing, from the home we both built, with all my earthly possessions stuffed into a tiny box on my head. I am henceforth forbidden from seeing my two older children, I’m lucky to be allowed to go with my little one still suckling on my left breast. Three years later, the little one is tagged a bastard. Now, my new name is “after-three”, because I am a woman.

He is 28 and runs a company. He’s tagged wonderful, hardworking, focused, career oriented, successful at a very young age.

I am 28 and I run a company " Hmmmm, she is not even married, unserious, can not order her priorities right, a hustler, loves money, let her go and get a husband oh"

And I wonder if being successful has anything to do with a person’s gender.

Because I am a woman,
I am not allowed to have wits or be a prodigy, I cannot be financially buoyant, professionally successful or be treated with respect without a man beside me.

Then I am tagged a generous leg opener, “a runs girl”. They never see the possibility that I actually had to go through ups and downs to get to where I am.

Because I am a woman.

A man loses his wife to death and remarries a year after, he did the right thing, he’s being praised and congratulated for moving on, after all life is for the living.

A woman loses her husband to death and remarries after 4yrs, "ahhh! so early? Are u sure she wasn’t sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband. She’s a witch! " Because she’s a woman.

Because I am a woman, this post will be considered controversial, and everyone will try to correct me.

But don’t forget, that I am a woman and it does not make me less human!!! # No to oppression

Unfortunately…its a mans world.

As James Brown would crone, this is a man’s world but it would be nothing, NOTHING, not one little thing without a woman or a girl.

Again unfortunately lots of us dudes dont want to admit this…and the ones that do…well you know some of the names the rest of our menfolk would call us…but mi huwa sishtuki btw.
The double standards out here are so damn outrageous and this patriarchy thing should be revisited in my humble opinion.
But what i always do is remind the womenfolk around me to cheza chini ki snipper and always try to be 10 steps ahead and most importantly INDEPENDENT…and never do head on confrontations with a man hata yule seems open minded reasonable na ume zoeana na yeye…just try outsmart him.

Yes, they will call you a simp. If you support women in anything. You are right independence is key but not too much, also acting like damsel in distress works like a charm. Men’s sense of self importance when stroked by showing them you need their help will make them do anything for you. I hardly ever push my own trolley to the car. Men actually are very happy to help out a woman. Especially the older you get. One time I was in the jam and a mat hit my side mirror kimaksudi. I don’t like confrontation with mat people bcz I know they’re sleep deprived and on drugs, so I didn’t do anything. A guy in the next lane actually hit the makanga with his car, frm that mat when he came near, mpaka it almost became a fight between the two. Mats harass women so much on the road. It was a nice feeling being defended by someone who was strong enough to fight with them.

Though not always…unless the dudes got feelings for you or he after something…

I can imagine :D.

Very true…we are happy to volunteer and help out anyone and everyone…bora inakaa ni genuine and you really are out of your depth…mwanaume ni mtu mzuri mn’gwana ni maisha sazingine humpeleka mbaya.
Na pia isikae unamzoea vibaya…its all love from the heart from there.

Very true. When I am not in Ktalk with mgtow I get the same impression but please do not tell anyone here. I don’t want to be called a simp.