So,just hypothetically asking ,a man who’s in early 30s decides to settle down,but his choice is a woman with a child…:D:D yeah…3 or 4 years old hapo…He has know her for a year…good qualities…wife material,she’s well bebad nyuma and mbele,sura ni ya beyonce ivi,complexion ni ya ki alicia keys hivi…The kid likes him and all,they hang out,movies nini nini…
Sasa swali ni tuseme mjunior bado amezoea kumuita uncle,nini anaeza fanya ndio mjunior aanze kumuita babah?tuseme anaogopa ku move in kama bado kitoi kinamuita uncle…
Kwa wale wamefanikiwa kuweka women with kids from a previous relationship(yeah i know theres a name for that),what are the hacks?how did you transform from “ule uncle wa chaka ranch”/“ule uncle wa garden city” to “pelekea baba maji sitting room”
Advice ni ile ile.Hakuna single mother mwenye ni wife material.Infact the man should be happy bado anaitwa ‘uncle wa garden city’.
A man can get wife material,bebad nyuma na mbele,sura kama ya beyonce mwenye haja zaa.Dont be hoodwinked ati the kid loves him ati they hang out nini nini.When the kids learn that you are not the dad ndio utajua you fucked up.You might be trying to play the super dad role in their lives unazimwa na ‘you are not my dad’.Before the mum met you,she was probably dating other men to whom she also exposed the kid to.Uki under perform the kiddo will be asking the mum why ‘huyu uncle hawezi ku afford kutupeleka garden city’.
Also remember that their real dad must be present in their lives.Whether he irritates your guts or not you must accept that their dad will be a part of your life forever by virtue of the kids.The worst part is that bado anaeza kuwa anapewa slices na bibi yako na hautajua na uki suspect hutaweza ku prove,utakuwa tu unameza hio reality kama waru moto.These women try to make you feel like a part of the family by immediately getting pregnant for you,which makes the problem worse because sasa huwezi jitoa na ukijitoa child support lazima ulipe.
A man must be a special kind of dumb to commit to settle down with a single mum when there are all these beautiful single women hawajazaa.
its called a blended family a more respectful name rather than a step family
it works well if there is TRUST (most important) mutual understanding, care and love. it will thrive check the Kariuki’s
Once you get officially married the «talk» will have to take place.
it will be explained to the child that this is a family. This is dad, am your mum and you are our child.
In an environment full of love and understanding a child will adapt.
In marriage success depends on how you work as a unit.
Its true that that child is a mzigo but i can tell you that when you enter into a marriage you all come with mizigos. Its how you deal with them that will determine wether the marriage succeeds or not.
:D:D:D:DIt will end in tears and frustration. Lakini since you can’t save a beta in a collision course, unaacha tu aingize mkono kwa maji moto achomeke ndio apate adabu.
You can clearly see the regret in that beta’s face. Jamaa anaregret kwanini hakuskiza talkers wakisema usifuge singo matha. Now he’s neck-deep in a lake of shit and he can’t swim his way out. I’d hate to be him:D:D:D
These family set ups do not work for the Kenyan man. It is a western culture and it works for them since it is the norm. And even then one has to be v careful since there is a significant number of child molesters, paedos and foolish single mums put their kids at risk.
A Kenyan man should just marry a woman without baggage.
Notice how he’s seated with slouching shoulders. Ukiona mwanaume anakaa hivo jua he’s had all his manhood beaten or shamed out of him. Mwanaume ni kukaa na confidence, not slouching and shrinking yourself like a scared kid trying to hide from bullies in school
@byro alifuga singo matha. Sasa singo matha akitaka kitu anaambia Byro, “Babe si you take me and your son shopping this weekend.” Byro like the beta male he is anaenda anachoma kama 30k akinunua useless shit like makeup and shoes she’ll never wear. Then wakirudi nyumbani, kippii cha singo matha kinathrow tantrums kinavunja simu ya Byro. Byro anakasirika anaamua kudiscipline kippii. Akikishika tu hivi anasikia singo matha imepiga nduru huko kitchen ikikuja mbio. “Wuuuui ngoma ino! Unagonga huyu mtoto unajua ata vile alizaliwa ama ulimpata tu? Weee ebu usinigongee mtoto WANGU! Wewe sio babake. Ako na baba!” Byro goes to the bedroom to cry tears of defeat and regret. “How did I end up at the epicenter of this shitshow?” he asks himself. “If only I had listened to the wise elders of ktalk.” He curls up into a ball in bed and weeps uncontrollably. Tomorrow is another day to be the cuck and chore boy to the ungrateful singo matha.:D:D:D:D
