Ok my girl for two years just told me that she was raped by her cousin.she seeked help from a pastor who also raped her.but that happened before we met 3years ago.i can’t blame her but its killing me inside I don’t know the way forward.any advice would really help…anyone.
Why is she telling you this just now??
jmoz, ati what is killing you? Were you also raped?
Why does it kill you yet you were not together at the time? Or are you insinuating something?
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Feels like somebody shot me
It’s good to know.but I
it still happend even if we were not together
Don’t know why she kept it secret until now
Were you shot? No. It is your girlfriend was raped (or maybe not-siku hizi what with all this #MeToo siamini kila kitu nasikia), endelea kula vitu. Kama ukiboeka, hama. Achia wale hawana maswali mingi ya kusikia kama wamepigwa risasi. Vile unasound ni kaa huwezi saidia huyo dem.
It’s normal to feel upset, after all she’s your gf you love and care for her. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I suggest you encourage her to see a therapist.
Edit: why do you say you can’t blame her? are you implying something?
Nop i think I’m just upset
If your girlfriend is upset and feeling the way one does when she is raped, and now you also decide you are also going to be very upset and feeling like you have been shot; well, now you have two upset people. Nani tasaidia mwenzake?
I Would have advised you but am a very vengeful person so acha tu nilale. Pole kwa masaibu though.
Just be there for her like you normally have been all this while… Just act normal…I’d just suggest you don’t talk to her about the rape encounter unless she wants to talk about it/if she brings the issue up herself… Ukishindilia hiyo story it will just make things weird and awkward between the two of you. Just an advice though 
How old are you
Then let it slide!
" Tounge twisterer" tulia …:D:D
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Question IS what is making her susceptible to being eaten by people she ought to trust
Thanks. Mwambie kwa njia fasaha zaidi ashike.