Nobody is perfect. You don’t deserve death bcz you made poor choices in life. This condemning unforgiving thing is a male thing. You see it in how they condemn women. Don’t be hard on people or on yourself. This toxic male guilt is the reason men are committing suicide. If you cry or say you are depressed you are called a simp. Toxic masculinity has led to the death of Njambi Koikais suicide and I fully blame men for expecting men not to cry even after such traumatic deaths of their children. Look at how women who have lost their children under traumatic circumstances support one another. Wanaume it’s all about kuingia kwa miti and don’t cry and you are a simp if you do. Look at the numbers of suicides of men and tell me how that macho stance is working out for you. Allow people to be human and to make mistakes. And to find redemption from their past mistakes. It is only the devil who does not forgive and give second chances. Your movement made this man avoid his daughter in the name of being a man and the same movement did not offer him a shoulder when he regretted his past actions or inactions. Wanaume I blame you fully for the toxic masculinity leading men to suicide. If you think men are heartless to women they are more heartless to their fellow men. You can’t cry. You can’t redeem yourself. You can’t ask for help. You are a man stop simping. Kaa ngumu. And for what? Is there a medal? You can deceive many but not God or yourself. It is time to let men and also women be human. Make mistakes and get second chances. This toxic masculinity is destroying men, women and children. Let people be human. You bully people who fail until they are hopeless. Njambis dad felt hopeless to redeem his past mistakes. Women can be ok even after being crucified for their past. Look at Diana Marua. Men don’t have the internal resources to do so. They just kill themselves.