I have a friend married with 4 boys. As she was growing up she went through the usual evil experiences with men most women go through. It seems however that she suppressed all the frustration, hurt and pain. It’s now manifesting itself in suicidal and homicidal thoughts. If her husband quarrels her she switches of her mind and dissociate from her body like a trance. What is worrying me is that over and over again she has told me that she wants to stab her husband and kids or throw herself out of the window aka commit suicide.
Of course I understand her trauma as trauma which most women go through especially due to men trying to take sexual advantage of them. Juzi she told me that she watched this episode of Lynn Ngugi and cried for 3 hours straight.
I wish I could counsel her but I think her trauma is too deep for a non professional help. She is suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. For me I leave toxic relationshits but she has been stuck in one for over 15 years. She can’t leave coz of her kids too. Once she told me that she was going to leave her husband and I requested her not to bcz at the time she was heavily pregnant.
I can’t say that I have never had a hard time with men but hers is too much. One bad experience after the other. She has also been having alot of non cancerous tumours in various parts of her body which I believe is due to the psychological stress she is under.
As a Christian I’m against divorce and I wonder how she can seek help in spite of being in a difficult marriage. Personally I fear the finality of marriage, in that it’s hard to break up with someone who you have kids with. It may be harmful to your children.
Watu wako kwa ndoa nisaidie na mawazo. I don’t want my friend to end up on the news. At one point she started talking about dying nonstop I had to take her to a fun place to show her that life is still worth living in spite of the circumstances that trouble us. Last week I took her to Titanic where the car sank with a man and his gf. She was looking relaxed after the trip. So this is the story she was crying over for 3 good hours. Btw she has a degree in psychology from UON. Personally I avoid anything toxic from men so I am not really experienced in that department of trauma from men. I actually avoid men alot. If I enter a relationship with a man I will block the person at the first sign of trouble. Living with the hardships in Kenya is enough stress for me. I’m looking for comfort in a relationship if instead of giving me that comfort you are adding to the stressors I already have it doesn’t matter how much I’m feeling you, I will dump you so fast coz first of all my age does not allow me to have man problems. Men think I am heartless and cold but I am just protecting myself bcz I don’t even have that energy for relationship drama look for a 20 yo woman who has all the energy in the world to take your drama to. Me if I want drama I will watch a thriller. So I am not the best person to assist in such coz you can ask my exes, me I don’t put up with shit from men. Before you give me ulcers you are the one who will get them. So mawaidha is what I am looking for.
That your friend is just attention seeking.How is she realizing she is in a bad marriage after 15years and having four boys?Mwambie atulie kwa ndoa pole pole.Also tell her she must SUBMIT to her husband the way God instructed all women (including you) in the Bible.
Kando na hayo,I have booked a room at Silver Springs hotel for one night.I want me and you to check in today at 3pm.We shall check out tomorrow Sunday at 11am after I have thoroughly pumped high grade semen containing superior Jaluo Jeuri gene deep inside your birth canal.Hopefully you will get pregnant and bear four quadruplets (boys) for Enigma.The first one shall be called AGWAMBO ENIGMA JUNIOR,the second ORWA JASOLO,the third OCHIENG’ WUOD OGEMBO CHUMBI NYIRI and finally the fourth son shall be called AMUOT KITHOCH WUOD APIDI NYOGAMBO.If you want any son named after one of your Meru people you must be ready and willing to come for another session of Enigma Anaconda session at Silver Springs.If you don’t submit to Enigma as the Bible instructed I shall cancel the booking and you shall have no hope remaining in your life of removing the cobwebs between your legs.