Not sure you can say it’s being scammed or being manipulated or being financially abused, however many hard working adults are going through this shit.
I have gone through this thing for ages, i sware never to allow myself to be mistreated, i cause havoc at home, i delete all my family contacts from my phone… Then that leader of the pack comes after some few weeks (a parent) and begs for help for their own and for the siblings, then i fall right again into the trap. It becomes a cycle.
Is this something that happens to many others ama tuseme ni kurogwa tuu.!!
Ukitaka kujitoa na unajau kabisaa kwa roho yako hutaki kutoa, follow up the giving with a snide comment. Kama ukipeana pesa alafu umuone amepost picha kwa baa. Make sure to remind them they are drinking your money, even when it was just 200 bob you sent. Hadi waumwe na tumbo waseme ata pesa zako kaa nazo ni za urogi. But make it so underhanded and so so sooo subtle that it takes them days or even years to finally realize that was some backhanded and nasty shit you said to them. Ile tu mtu hukuwa amekaa pekeyake unagundua na kweli nilitukanwa vibaya.
What do you live for if not family?. Acheni uchoyo, hizi pesa ukifa zitaliwa na familia tu.
Taking precaution over things so subtle.
Ondoa hio mentality hapo na uwanyime na basis
I was in a similar situation but long learnt to say NO ama SINA PESA. Also avoid displaying excessively soft life. Hio sii kusema usijienjoy but just limit the number and kind of relatives you pass time with. Halafu make your make busy. By that, kuwa na kaproject that benefits you kanahitaji pesa kila saa. That way unajijenga pole pole without having excess cash that relatives can demand from you.
Wengine are just too much!! Some spend all day doing nothing, but ikifika weekend ni ati “form ni gani” and “niokolee sina hata za food”!! Potelea mbali!!