Getting Scammed by FAMILY including a parent and siblings......

Not sure you can say it’s being scammed or being manipulated or being financially abused, however many hard working adults are going through this shit.

I have gone through this thing for ages, i sware never to allow myself to be mistreated, i cause havoc at home, i delete all my family contacts from my phone… Then that leader of the pack comes after some few weeks (a parent) and begs for help for their own and for the siblings, then i fall right again into the trap. It becomes a cycle.

Is this something that happens to many others ama tuseme ni kurogwa tuu.!!

Nigeandika @Hekaya lakini @Sio Leo

I am one of the scammers

@Sio Leo amefanya nini

Especially order siblings are required to look after the younger ones. inaitwa black tax.

Kama uko na uwezo saidia bora usijifinye sana

Ukitaka kujitoa na unajau kabisaa kwa roho yako hutaki kutoa, follow up the giving with a snide comment. Kama ukipeana pesa alafu umuone amepost picha kwa baa. Make sure to remind them they are drinking your money, even when it was just 200 bob you sent. Hadi waumwe na tumbo waseme ata pesa zako kaa nazo ni za urogi. But make it so underhanded and so so sooo subtle that it takes them days or even years to finally realize that was some backhanded and nasty shit you said to them. Ile tu mtu hukuwa amekaa pekeyake unagundua na kweli nilitukanwa vibaya.

Pole. Happens to the best of us.

Sio ati kusaidia mtu hataki, am talking about themselves planning to fleece you. You help them but they start using lies to get your money.

What do you live for if not family?. Acheni uchoyo, hizi pesa ukifa zitaliwa na familia tu.
Taking precaution over things so subtle.
Ondoa hio mentality hapo na uwanyime na basis

Andika hekaya…

So we just allow pple to take advantage of you, they lie and plan to fleece you… Such pple can even plan to kill you.

Nimekwambia uwanyime na basis, sio uchoyo tu hivo

I was in a similar situation but long learnt to say NO ama SINA PESA. Also avoid displaying excessively soft life. Hio sii kusema usijienjoy but just limit the number and kind of relatives you pass time with. Halafu make your make busy. By that, kuwa na kaproject that benefits you kanahitaji pesa kila saa. That way unajijenga pole pole without having excess cash that relatives can demand from you.

Ok… I get it

So far the best advice have received… It’s true, kwanza hapo kwa ka project is the best.

Wengine are just too much!! Some spend all day doing nothing, but ikifika weekend ni ati “form ni gani” and “niokolee sina hata za food”!! Potelea mbali!!

My generosity has been abused for far too long!

Wewe ndio uko na shida. Potelea embobut forest

Mtu wa kuomba omba na kusumbua watu hujulikana kwa tabia… ushajitangaza ndugu… Wewe na nguruwe ni sawa.

Anzishia hao project yoyote hata kama ni ya kufuga kuku wa kienyeji halafu wajitegemee.