Fisiology 101:The tales

I met a man. A great man. A man who has respect and good manners. Remind me to thank his mama if I ever meet her. A man who has no baby mama stories hovering over his head and his wallet. A man who has a great body. A man who smells like the morning dew…. too fresh. A man who is good in bed. A man that I want to take to my mama so badly but… but ‘he does not want a relationship’. He wants to remain in the casual sex zone. Aaaarrggghh!!
Now, when you get this kind of man, whatever he says, you pretend to agree with, then you ask your friends the easiest way to get him to ‘be in a relationship. The fastest and most convenient way to get him into the box, or the prison’

After a month with him, I decided to do things and say things that insinuate that we are together. Now, this great man is also a very intelligent man. While I was thinking that I am getting him into some box, he was putting me into some box that made me think my magic was working.

Now ladies, I need to share with you 5 things this man said to me, to make me think ‘tuko pamoja’

[li]You will meet my friend[/li][/ol]
The conversation starts ‘oh, I was with Mike. My boy from college. You will meet him soon’ Now, this is music to a girl’s ears. This Mr. no relationship is making baby steps by introducing me to his close friend. Or so I thought.

Guys know how to work a woman’s psychology. No introduction to any of his friends and we are in month three.

[li]We need a holiday[/li][/ol]
A vacation with your man means 20 steps forward. Now, I don’t know why Mister No relationship could not say ‘I need a holiday’ but to involve me in that statement is pure heartbreak. I started thinking of myself in a bikini, not letting my IG breath with captions like #LifesABeach #BaeTings . No mention of that anymore.

[li]I will bring you here[/li][/ol]
You miss him and call him to find out what’s his plan for the day. Conversation starts “what are you up to?’

HIM: “I am having Koroga with my friends in Parklands. Such a nice place. I should bring you here.” Tell me I that statement does not move you from shagmate to girlfriend… well, at least in your mind.

[li]What are we doing this this weekend?[/li][/ol]
Now, we know that this statement is for girls who are in the girlfriend zone. This statement gets you going. You start thinking of the many things you have wanted to do with a bae on a weekend. Maybe lunch, a drive, church on Sunday, lunch with some friends….right? But then you remember this is the same guy who does not want to be in a relationship. So what’s going on?

[li]I will make you dinner at my house[/li][/ol]
Game over. When a man says that, know you are on your way to girlfriend zone. For a man to make you dinner, he has to really value you and respect you. Thoughts ran in my mind of how I will behave. How we will be whipping things in the kitchen together, as we make jokes about anything and everything. Oh, I am still here fantasizing.

Well, month three is here, and none of the above has happened. He played me good. He is a smart man. A complicated lover. A ladies’ man. A man who knows how to play with women’s psychology. So good at this game. So here I am, still in the shagmate zone. Taking one minute at a time. Lowered my expectation of anything else to ground zero. Wanting more but having to stick to what we agreed because I don’t want to lose him. Maybe I should move on but I can’t. He is the perfect man for me but he just wants sex no strings attached.

Ni sawa tu!

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LOL I didn’t read

That lady is a fool who only heard what she wanted to hear. Sometimes a man cooks for you because he prefers to fuck on a full stomach na wewe kwako ni ma indomie na ma healthy diet, ooh sijui camomile tea… Chieth


What is this stood hyena writing disertations for?

watu ni wagonjwa kweli

Fisi, super gay.

Hawa entitled bimbos wanatakanga styro hiyo.




noma sana…

Wenye wanasema mambo ya gay didn’t even read it. This is an article by a lady and her tales under influence of a fisi. I am just a reporter.

@introvert…unaelewa huyu mjamaa?

Andike na Kiswahili…

Meffi, didn’t read