Middle-aged couples gradually see through many things and many truths about marriage.
Once upon a time, we thought that marriage was all we could rely on in life, as long as we chose the right person, we would be able to live a life without worries and storms. But as I lived, I discovered that people will change, and feelings will also change. The person who once made us trust 100% and entrusted him for life may also disappoint us and bring us hardships.
At this time, you have to abandon the innocence and simplicity of the past, and know how to leave a way for yourself.
Middle-aged couples, don’t overestimate the person next to you. There are a few things you should pay special attention to. This is not to play with each other’s mind, but to make oneself have more security and sense of security in the future.
One: Don’t rely too much on your partner, but have the ability to live independently
There are many people in life who are always overly dependent on the other half. It seems that without him, they have no ability to live. If he loves you, this is your luck, what if one day he doesn’t love you anymore? You may never survive on your own again.
This is the case with Luo Zijun in the TV series “The First Half of My Life”.
Before the divorce, she was completely out of touch with society and was raised by her ex-husband alone. But later, her ex-husband moved on and her marriage broke down. At this time, she suddenly realized that no one would always protect her from the wind and rain. In the end, the only thing a person can rely on is himself.
Since then, she has tried to get back on her feet and started looking for work to support herself and her son. It was also from that time that she saw through the truth of marriage, and finally she no longer relied on her, no longer relied on her.
In fact, before the arrival of middle age, we should have such awareness. Just because you marry a person and enter into a relationship does not mean that this person and this relationship have become your lifelong reliance.
After all, your life is still your own. Only by learning to be independent can you not be afraid of losing
Two: Have a strong heart, be independent in spirit, and live out your own life.
Some women may say that they also know that financial independence is important, but for the sake of the family, they cannot go out to work. If they go out, who will take care of the children? Who will take care of the elderly? Who will do the housework at home?
Of course, men can also do it, but men earn more than themselves, wouldn’t it be more cost-effective for him to resign and return to the family? On balance, going home by yourself is the best choice.
In this case, let yourself have a strong heart, maintain spiritual independence, and resolutely live out yourself. Make it clear to the man that I quit my job for the sake of my family, and I can’t look down on myself because I have no income and think that I have paid less for the family and made less contribution.
This is unfair and unreasonable.
As long as you maintain this sobriety and self-confidence, you can earn back your dignity in front of men, let him see and appreciate your dedication, instead of ignoring your value and thinking that you are useless.
Three: Have your own life, have hobbies and social circles, and strive to live a wonderful life.
After many people get married, they start to revolve around the family, men, and children, completely losing themselves. At first, you may be willing, but gradually, you will find that your spirit has become very fragile.
Whenever a man speaks louder to you, and whenever you hear any gossip outside, you will feel very insecure. You can’t help but think, what if a man betrayed himself? What if the marriage cannot be saved?
At this time, it seems that I have been separated from society for too long, and I have no ability to live independently.
In fact, it is normal to have such thoughts. When a person lives without himself, he will often worry about gains and losses. If you want to solve this situation, you must have your own life, your own hobbies and social circle, so that you can not only regain your self-confidence, but also give you a spiritual sustenance.
Only when you live a rich life and enrich your heart, will you not often feel that you have nothing to love in life, and you will not find the joy of life.
When people reach middle age, don’t pin all your hopes in life on marriage. People in marriage may betray you, but you yourself will not. So find the focus of life, know how to love yourself, and rely on yourself in everything, you will live with a sense of security and confidence.