Imagine jamaa ako mjengo na analipwa ksh600 per day. Unga ni 250, maziwa ni 80 Bob, cooking oil ni 450 per litre. Hujaweka rent, medical care expenses, school fees, commuter fees etc. Kisha jamaa anachukua msichana wa wenyewe ATI anaoa yeye. Si hiyo ni kama signing your death sentence jameni?
Kama mnamaliza unga kilo mbili na mafuta lita moja daily, nyinyi walafi wawili kweli hamfai kuoana.
Ama hii reasoning na hesabu yako ya kitoto pereka huko.
Mwengine juzi hapa alikuwa anacelebrate kuongeza mtoto wa nne
Its stupid to marry when you cant afford a decent lifestyle for yourself and it doesn’t even have to be posh. Before marrying, at least make sure you can afford living in a decent house/apartment with heated water, internet, enough space, electricity, and having a balanced diet everyday. You can’t do that with 600 bob per day mjengo salary in Nairobi. So yeah…that person should eschew marriage and live for himself.
kijana anaumiza mwili yake kwa mjengo akitafutia nani kama hana bibi na watoto? vijana waoe,
Ati mutoto huzaliwa na sahani yake halafu there’s babacare which will provide everything eternally! Kukosa akili ni kitu mbaya akina @poyoloko
Akijitafutia. Your first priority is YOURSELF. I would never advise such a broke kid to break his back for some bitch and kids he cant afford. That’s exactly how people become criminals and rot in prison. Kijana anaoa under such circumstances anapata watoto watatu. Mjengo ikiisha and kids have to eat guess what happens?? Crime becomes his quickest way out. Anapigwa mob justice ama anapewa 25 years Manyani Prison. Strain Theory of Crime…you don’t even have to be a psychology major to know that. Marriage is good but its stupid to marry under some circumstances.
If you have 3 kids, live in the slums, 3 months behind on your rent, kids are starving, wife is threatening to leave, and your childhood friend tells you there is a “mission” tonight and you will walk away with 100 large. It wont be too hard to rationalize that crime.
Mgaa gaa na upwa chuma lazima ulala ndani. Poverty and procreation are conjoined twins.
I think we are wrongly analyzing things here. The problem is someone doing kazi ya mjengo. That’s a dead end career. Someone with no ambition. 2, 3 months is fine. But anything more than that is interesting. If one is really serious with advancing in life while doing menial jobs, there are easier jobs like being a Ma3 driver. So many success stories from that. And many more. But succeeding from mjengo is rare. So it should be a cautionary tale for every women accepting to get married. Unless they have the same mindset.
Before uoe, at least make sure you live in a basic one bedroom apartment with water, electricity and internet close to where you work. Make sure you can afford decent nutrition, and have some disposable income i.e you aren’t living paycheck to paycheck. In my view, that’s the absolute bare minimum living standard that a man should attain before even contemplating marriage. And I’m not referring to having a posh lifestyle, just the bare minimum living standard. Watoto wakikuja add one bedroom per kid. If your living standard is lower than that, then you are better off being a bachelor. Sincerely.
MGTOW battallion apana tambua hii upusu…self actualization na kukafunga should always be your priority. Watoto ata umbwa kama @uwesmakende ako naye.
Marry? What for? Aside from being totally broke to actually afford a family, to think that people are still having kids…There is no excuse for ignorance of what is coming. These kids will be lucky to see their 20th birthday and if they do they are going to wish they hadn’t.
Now how comes wazee wote wajinga kwa hii kijiji kama @sani @ChifuMbitika na @maghreb will always regale us with stories of how they started their matrimony in a 1 room tinroof hut
Survivorship bias. Only the ones who made it out tell those stories.
Chakula ya mtoto na watu wawili inacost how much? Ata wakulima wa mifugo hawakubali mbegu ya ndume imezeeka
Is it fair to say that someone doing kazi ya mjengo for over 3 months lacks ambition?
Can you advice your brother to marry when he can’t even afford to feed himself?
Can you advice your sister to get married to a guy without a reasonable source of income?
While I would agree that line of work as a career its a dead end one, but if one looks at it from a business perspective, the mjengo kazi can be a success. Its hard I agree, but I know of a couple of guys who started as mkono guys, moved to fundi, and invested kidogo in that line of business an old pick up, that mixer machine - its not easy but with the right focus and some luck it can be a good line of work. At the end of the day we work with what we have.
Maisha haina formula. Mengine tunajulia mbele.
ikifika kwa close relatives io ni maneno ingine. lakini cha msingi ni watu waoe mapema kama wako na uwezo. wanaume wanakunywa vileo na mvinyo imported na bado wanasema hawana uwezo wa kulea watoto.