This is a story about relations, falls here and isn’t sexual in any way.
I have a brother whom we fell out with, burnt bridges and haven’t seen or talked in 2 years though we both live in this Nairobi, where he lives I don’t know. Today I got news that he got a baby sometime ago, I’m an uncle!!! Thing is I don’t know where to begin in mending fences because the anger I had morphed to indifference and life moved on from there. But I really want to see my nephew and letting things deteriorate to this state is something I’m painfully regretting as I type this. Do any of you have decisions you have made that you regret?
11 Likes
I am sure there is a way you can know where he stays, find out and plan to visit without his knowledge and make sure he is at home when you land. Trust me, “Damu ni nzito kuliko maji”, you will be surprised
11 Likes
worst idea ever! people who show up to other people’s homes unannounced need to have their genitals chewed off by coyotes!
4 Likes
These kind of Situations Require that Either of you Really Lets go of the Anger and Pride so Unless you have got to that point where you fell that the Love for your Bro And Nephew is Greater than the Pride you have.; Don`t Expect That he is Feeling the same way as you!
It takes the Wiser One of you to see the bigger Picture and to stoop low and swallow their Pride for the sake of the Greater Glory of Maintaining Harmony in the Family!.. Happens to the Best Families!..
11 Likes
A brother is not “people”, he is family.
10 Likes
Respect is not reserved for strangers. Your flesh and blood have as much right to privacy as anyone else.
1 Like
Keep it simple, start with a phone call. It may not go as you expect but sometimes these things need one to swallow a whole lot of pride… even if the other guy is the one being an a**. Just don’t text. Texting is for side chicks
3 Likes
Trying to think about that conversation and how tobegin it I don’t even know the woman
what is this bissh posting about?? family comes first
2 Likes
nyinyi wawili ni bure kabisa bureeee. how can grown up MEN keep such grudges. enda kwake salimia yeye hold baby wachie mamake bahasha walk out. iko nene!?
6 Likes
There are times I stay up at night and think whether he wonders about me or even keep tabs but best place should be a neutral ground I suppose
2 Likes
Do you think your bro anaweza kukutoa mbio? Give him a call, begin that you regret having let things come in between the two of you ,go ahead and congratulate him for his child, inform him that you would like to visit and you wish to know where he stays. Thank him and tell him you will see him soon. … he will text you back saying that he couldnt wait for that moment when you two reunite.
Just congratulate them for (?) the baby and see how that goes.
7 Likes
Privacy is overrated. How private is our privacy anyway? It’s not like you live in a hollowed out volcano. I am with @Mundu Mulosi here. Anyone whose blood runs in my veins is welcome to break my privacy unannounced . It may not be comfortable and I may not like it but that’s family.
8 Likes
Start by calling, just say ’ habari,its Gio, its been a long time, I just thought I should say hi,’ if conversation goes well offer to buy him a drink as you catch up,things should be easy from there, if he acts weird on the phone,apologise for your falling out, and say that you realize that no matter what he is still your brother and say bye. Hope that he too will come to his senses and call you back.
3 Likes
buy lunch tomorrow…
1 Like
Following, will try for the weekend
Just call your bro. Let the chips fall where they may. Call him
3 Likes
Kama ulitomba bibi yake shauri yako
5 Likes
call him…