Common Man Shaming Tactics- She Sounds Toxic

Haranguing a grown man on social media for reactions is not going to make him cowed and tuck his nuts between his butt cheeks and come begging. Wanaume wameperfect the art of Karura foresting. USIZALIE MWANAUME HAJAKUOA

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huyo mwanamke hukua depressed and very toxic no wonder mans aliingia Karura

clout chaser…women control access to sex, men control access to relationships n marriage…everyone exercised their authority

Woman’s Revelation on Relationship With Son Gets Kenyans Talking

By MICHAEL MUSYOKA on 3 October 2020 - 11:00 am

Wanja Kavengi shared on her relationship with her son on October 2, 2020

On Friday, October 2, a woman made a revelation on her distant relationship with her son which sparked reactions from Kenyans online.

Wanja Kavengi, took to her social media where she narrated how she was never able to establish a connection with her eight-year-old son.

In a post that garnered over 3,000 comments and nearly 900 shares, Kavengi confessed that she shouted at her son as she created an emotional distance never offering him compassion or warmth.

“I was depressed throughout his pregnancy; I didn’t want him. I was depressed after his birth; I didn’t want him. I was depressed while raising him; I didn’t want him. He felt like a bother, like a burden, like an unwanted guest in my house, a painful thorn under my sole,” she stated.

She narrated that she still harbors the feeling of resentment 8 years after giving birth.

“I ignored him from the day he was born. I have been unkind to him, I don’t love my son and I am tired of hurting him,” she stated.

A medical practitioner Edwin Gitu explained to Kenyans.co.ke stated that postpartum depression was as a result of physical, emotional, and behavioral changes that happen in some women after giving birth.

“Hormonal imbalance after birth may make the new mother experience flashes of anger, depression and might even result in extremely violent crimes and assault,” he stated.

The doctor explained that the condition may last from when the woman gives birth to up to six months, with some women experience health complications such as high blood pressure.

On the possibility of the condition lasting up to eight years, he explained that it was possible that an element of pyschosis could have been aggrevated by the preganancy.

“It would be important to get the patient’s history and the family as well, if there have been issues of mental instability,” he stated.

The medical professional further opined that it was not healthy for a child to be raised in an abusive environment as they could get scarred in their formative years.

A number of Kenyans commented on Kavengi’s post with many urging her to seek help.

“You have just accomplished your first step towards healing. Seek help, you need counseling, it may help you deal with your wounds because you are most certainly hurting. It’s only upon that healing that you can manage to connect with your son,” one Inya noted.

"It’s unfortunate that people think she is doing this out of her own will,I mean the not bonding with the son but if you haven’t been through the post birth depression don’t throw stones. She first needs help through counseling to understand herself before she accepts

In a post that garnered over 3,000 comments and nearly 900 shares, Kavengi confessed that she shouted at her son as she created an emotional distance never offering him compassion or warmth.

“I was depressed throughout his pregnancy; I didn’t want him. I was depressed after his birth; I didn’t want him. I was depressed while raising him; I didn’t want him. He felt like a bother, like a burden, like an unwanted guest in my house, a painful thorn un.der my sole,” she stated.

takataka of a mwanamke .

Huyo mama ni depression inamumaliza

:D:D:D:D:D… MGTOW =FREEDOM…post wall chieth kunguru hiding behind hormones so as to abdicate her parental responsibility ,pole kwa mtoto for being sired by a psychopath mum

She was out for business but God went the man’s way, am sure that would have sorrow for the guy. May God grant him wealth on this Mens Day.

A story has two sides…

Wrong. There can never be two sides to a story. There is only one side and thats the truth. If there are two sides of a story then it means each one of us has exaggerated it to fit his/her own narrative. Its either we both saw a dog or we both saw a goat. It can never be that one of us saw a dog while the other saw a goat.

huyo ni third born wa @TrumanCapote

Tulizeni makende wadau, she is an author/writer who does this fictional stuff.
https://www.magunga.com/wanja-kavengi-and-her-sons-kidnappers/

Huyo ni mama ya @Demakuvu demashode

I disagree. The human mind is an open system that uses emotions, that’s why we have disagreements coz one is seeing a dog while the other is seeing a goat.hence two sides of the story which must be considered…it is only machines like computers which determine that a situation is either true or false

I tend to disagree also. Most of these two sided stories is where each participant has something to lose when the truth comes out so each one ends up twisting the stories to fit his narrative.

Emotions cant change the truth my brother. People use emotions to make their side of the story to be seen as being true. How can emotions make you see a dog when its clearly a goat. Even a drunk man can tell you its a goat.

watch out you don`t step on a fallacy while making arguments

to each his own.

But basically when we say two sided obviously in the heat of things one party is lying…now the essence of listening to both sides is to establish the lying culprit

Matters of emotional response to stimuli and perception are not as straight forward as a dog or goat. Somebody acted or said something. How did the other party perceive and react to it. Remember there are varied perceptions and reactions possible. Was the reaction or perception relevant? Was there a less harmful reaction or perception?. Now throw in personality and life experiences in the mix and you realize it is not about truth. Both parties claim truth but it is never about truth, but facts and reaction to and perception of the facts

Yes or maybe even both parties are lying. The essence of listening yo both parties is to establish the truth coz no one wants to be caught in a lie.