Kuna tabia wanawake wamezoea. Mnakosana anatoroka anaenda kujikaisha. She then starts harassing you “usaidie mtoto wako”. By kusaidia mtoto, it means paying her rent, food and miscellaneous expenses.
I believe kama mtoto haishi na mimi, he/she isn’t entitled to any financial benefit from me. Kama ni lazima, aende kwetu ocha ama aende boarding school. Men are suffering. They are being blackmailed by women under the disguise of “kusaidia mtoto wako” or “mtoto ndiye damu yako sio mama”. Unapata ninja anajinyima just to support a kid and a mother who is probably taking dick and money from other negros.
What do you think, is it wise to support a kid that is living with his mother somewhere else even if the mother is working?
man must provide, but story ya child support when your babymama is being rammed by randoms ni tricky. if you truly DGAF, then you will have no problem with ‘helping’ your seed.
Next time be more selective about who you choose to impregnate. Sasa imagine akuwe na watoto wengine wawili juu wa some broke niggas. Ile pesa unatoa haitawahi fikia mtoto wako.
Women use the kid as “insurance”…U might think that if the kid was not there angekuwa halipi rent. Plus wengine wameigeuza biz, she has kids with more than one niccur sasa kila mtu anatuma “child support” na watoto wote wanaishi kwa nyumba moja.
If you are the richest baby daddy hapo ndipo utaumia juu mtoto wako atatumiwa kulea hao wengine.
That’s why I advise upcoming birrioneas to run as fast as they can from women with kids. One night of raw sex will fuck you up for 18 years.
Imagine a young professional man e.g dentist ama lawyer with a good life ahead of him. Apatie chokosh imezalia watu wa nduthi two kids. His life will never be the same. If you are rich keep off women with children. The downside is too big.
I believe child support amount is often calculated based on the man’s income. If you earn 200k monthly unaweza ambiwa ulipe 50k to support you child. But kama wewe ni hustler unaweza ata ambiwa ulipe 10k monthly.
Women take advantage of this to target rich men. No wonder huwezi skia suffer amepelekwa court na kesi ya child support.
I can provide for my kid even if anaishi na mamake but on four conditions:
I get to see them regularly and be an active parent.
No sending cash, I’ll buy ONLY the physical products my child uses and pay the kid’s fees, lakini pesa yangu hatawai shika. Na rent siwezi mlipia.
Kid keeps my surname and family name.
If she gets a beta male to date, he should NOT try to replace me as the father to my kid and she shouldn’t encourage it. Akiambia mtoto wangu aite some beta male “daddy” then that bet male should take up the financial responsibility that comes with that title.
most married men if not all ni betamale, unapea dame mimba kwanza na ikue watoto mbili alafu unaoa bdae when the kids have left your home and they are all grown. kama sivo prenup contract if uko na mali.
Yes this is all good and that is what should happen in broadaylight. But you have 2 options dudes…
1 is that you agree to cough up ulipe shule, health, clothes, mboch direct…not thru her or 2 ulipe a sum of money to her account direct na ajipange nazo.
Either way you are the loser. Push for seeing the child/children coz the more you see them the less you pay. Guys in Kenya seem to be so new to child support. Ulingia raw kwa nini in the 1st place??? if you were not there for the long haul???
3rd of all you need to accept that she might move on, hiyo inawauma. The same way you move on…so can can she…
4th the kids grow up and see what is happening around them. They will hate you on their own accord.
I mean how do you sleep without knowing where your child is? Jesooooooo…
Men,before you fuak any woman raw ask yourself if it’s worth it. That yellow yellow thigh can mess up your life in the future. Please tumieni akili saa zingine when approaching these galdems. Shida yenu ni hamskizi wazee.
kwani huyo mtoto si wa huyo mwanamke pia ama?
why does your statement seem to strongly bend on one end.
I think pia huyo mwanamke anamjali sio lazma ujue each and every detail about your kid. you just entrusted it with someone matured and apparently who happens to be the mother.
a mother can run the world to fend for the kid
Yes this is all good and that is what should happen in broadaylight. But you have 2 options dudes…
1 is that you agree to cough up ulipe shule, health, clothes, mboch direct…not thru her or 2 ulipe a sum of money to her account direct na ajipange nazo.
No accomplished, disrespected man (man who walked away by himself) can send another woman money. This will create rift in 1 family at most, especially my new family.
Again I told you “No sane woman in a genuine relationship will want another man’s money” Shillingi yangu ni sumu kwa ndoa yake mpya.
Only way I do direct payments.
Any man you see sending money to a woman he doesn’t live with anamkatia, anamtaka. 99% in such scenarios uwa Mwanaume ndio alimess up the marriage thus he wants to win back, show the mother how good you are as a father.
Either way you are the loser. Push for seeing the child/children coz the more you see them the less you pay. Guys in Kenya seem to be so new to child support. Ulingia raw kwa nini in the 1st place??? if you were not there for the long haul???
Again same same mistake, us having a kid doesn’t guarantee lifetime commitment,
lifetime commitment is guaranteed by us having same direction of life. Ukizaa you don’t have right to misbehave expecting a man will put up with your shit because you have his kids.
I told you “Men do not look for children in Marriage, they look for peace of mind and companionship” kua sumbua mwanaume atakuacha na watoto feftiin.
3rd of all you need to accept that she might move on, hiyo inawauma. The same way you move on…so can can she…
:D:D:D:D:DA woman moving on affects you? Hehehe. As if she moans dollars :D:D:DTena mwanaume ndio amejitoa.
4th the kids grow up and see what is happening around them. They will hate you on their own accord.
I mean how do you sleep without knowing where your child is? Jesooooooo…
Blackmail of the highest order.
One thing which I came to discover about women is they believe with you having a kid with “anakufunga maisha milele” that she can behave anyhow because akona mtoto wako na “you must always know where the child is”
this statement we know it’s meaning-- it means " why are you away from your family, young man"
Yet women refuse to accept the reasons of man being away.
Prime example is Betty Kyalo and Dennis Okari,
Sai Betty is saying she has matured up, Okari is the best dad, daughter loves dad alot. :D:D:DIf you check properly it’s Betty’s family which was harassing Okari, deadbeat, calling him stranger to his daughter.
Okari didn’t move an inch. Who’s laughing now. Even Betty is not in good terms with the said poison sister, coz she has learnt ni mtoto wake analose tu.
Mzee Okari anaenda kuona mtoto kwa nyumba ya Betty :D:D:DHapo ata retirement benefits was offered to him but Okari can’t go that low.
So summary. If you decided as a man to walk away.
Stay put
Pay direct costs. Hospital bill clear ata ya millions.
You will be called names, don’t worry.
Usiogope kitu.
At the end mama will see her mistakes, mtoto utapewa kwa sahani bila problems
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