Weuh. The Elias Njau and baby momma Shiku drama has proven that breaking up is not a joke . A woman who carried your seed can ram a car into your car after a late night drinking spree to discuss co-parenting.
So help me understand this, the man has been dating other women,he spends most of his time in Kahawa Sukari with his first family,he isnāt giving you money, he even wanted to take the company car from you yet you have equal shares in the company. You have not been talking for a year but he comes to your house unannounced. Yet for some reason you think it is a good idea meeting the man at night and drinking to discuss your problems. At the very least a man who meets you at that time is thinking of having sex with you. You leave and he follows you home. Is that really shocking?
When people are going through breakups itās like all logical reasoning goes out of the window. Iāve noticed that if you are not very decisive with an exe you can break up for years. You break up. You meet. You get some relief from the separation. You forget that you are supposed to be breaking up. Then you remember that this thing canāt work and you again withdraw. Experts say it takes half the time you were together to get over a break up. So if you dated 4 years itāll take 2 years to fully break up.
Letās not even talk about if it was your first heartbreak,first sexual partner,they died, or if you were married or had children. It can take forever to get over the person.
The way to at least have a sense of control is to behave like this person died. Assuming you donāt have children and businesses together. Act like this person is dead. No contact. No discussing them with other people. No stalking their social media page. Blocking them everywhere . If you can keep off any mutual friends or people who knew that you guys dated. Itās hard but it forces you to grieve. Once you grieve moving on becomes very easy.
Emotional attachments are hard to let go of even when the relationship was good and they died. I canāt even imagine what itās like if you have children. How are you going to get rid of this person? Some want to have sex with you so as to provide for your children. Prostitute yourself for child support. Others will sabotage all your future relationships with baby daddy,baby mama drama.
It takes strength to let go and even more strength to restrain yourself from becoming dramatic. Just doing and saying nothing is hard. But it is the best route. Just let it die. With no drama. Play dead. Even when you bump into each other say the least you can. If itās possible ignore or avoid them altogether. Itās good for you and for them. If itās over and it canāt work just let it die ,by playing dead. Say nothing. Do nothing. Grieve by yourself. Donāt talk about it. Die to it. Death is part of life. We have to embrace it. People die. Relationships die. Everything but God dies. Letās stop resisting death. Letās die well. Not becoming a national spectacle because you are resisting the death of a relationship. Surrender and let the relationship die . RIP .
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āExperts say it takes half the time you were together to get over a break up. So if you dated 4 years itāll take 2 years to fully break up.ā
Where is the source. I need to read further.
x/2 + j + l ā t + k/2 + r = y.
x = Amount of time in months you dated. Remember: It doesnāt matter if you were in a defined relationship or not.
y =Amount of time in months it will take for you to get over them.
j = x/3 If you canāt quite wrap your mind around why the breakup happened because the denial/confusion period will take longer.
J equals roughly a third of the amount of time, in months, you dated. Also, j comes into play if you were cheated on. But if the breakup completely makes sense to you, then j=0.
l = 4 Are you soft? Do things upset you a lot of the time? Add four months. If not, l=0.
k = The amount of times you check his social media per day
k = The amount of times you check his social media per day
t = x/3 If, at any point post-breakup, you get romantically involved with someone else
r=3 If you feel conflicted between blocking them or letting them watch your Instagram stories for validation that they still are interested in you, add three months. If not, r=0.
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ā¦based on the model above, I have concluded I never fell for anyone, yani nilikuwa mhusika mpita njia kwa relationships
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It is true btwā¦ It is why you should leave a bad relationship as soon as possible and be the one to initiate the break as this makes moving on easierā¦ usingoje kuachwaā¦ achana mapemaā¦
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Nilikuwa mjanja sana, never allowed a girl to break my heart.
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People breaking your heart is good for you. It helps you become resilient and itās why women live so long.
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ā¦to reach my heart wasnāt easy, kwanza utapambana na akili yangu vilivyo and no one so far ameweza ku deal na my medulla oblongata.
In other news, Iām a very generous man, I have no problem giving provided matters of the heart are not involved. Naweza hata lipia mtoto wa mtu school fees, adopt a kid, pay someone rent anyone hata mumama bora ameomba USAIDIZI but sio juu ya mapenzi. I see mapenzi as a weaknessā¦by the way niliwai penda kapaka kangu kalikuwa ka fluffy ka whiteā¦mutu alikaua..hapo nayo roho iliumia sana.
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Usicheze na paka. Those creatures can make you fall in love madly. Kuna yenye ilikua inanisindikisha hadi job . I used to buy it tufish tudogo ama prawns za twenty bob. That cat was spoilt. Sijai ata pikia mwanaume prawns but I used to buy for a stray cat that wasnāt even mine. Cats are very cool animals.
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Hehe, sasa tunaongea sawa sawa. Mimi nikiona paka akiteseka I feel it deeply, mara ngapi nime rescue ka kitten hadi naambiwa āwewe utaokota jini?ā nilikuwa nawambia āwewe unaona wapi jini?ā. Ka kitten kazuri kana manyoya nakabeba naka lisha hadi kananawiri vile inafaa. Shida ni watu, kakitoka nje kanabebwa kanaenda tu hivo. Kuna kamoja mimi na my son tulimtafuta siku tatu, never saw him again. Huwa nawapatia majina za ki latinoā¦
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Alar elder si ni wewe nimekutana na wewe in two separate threads preaching the gospel of stinginessā¦
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The day I learnt how manupilative and self centred cats are, tulimalizanaā¦ Heri mbwa mara mia
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Ebu explain iyo manipulation na self centred
It is nigh impossible to train a cat to so something it doesnāt want to doā¦
Cats also ask and expect things from you for doing nothing and just being pretty. A cat wonāt protect you from anything unless it is a mutual enemy or a food to it. say a rat or a snake.
When a cat is rubbing itself against your leg, it is actually expressing that it owns you. and is trying to ātrainā you to give it food.
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I used to put out milk on a saucer whenever I would see a kitten 
hanging around my place . The next thing the kitten is running into my house and being playful. Btw watoto wadogo pia wako na hio tabia. I once lived in this apartment where this boy about 3 years old would follow me and when I open the door he runs into my house and even goes into the bedroom. Innocence! But kittens are just the best. The way they rub themselves on your feet and are playful. Sijui coast mbona wako na uoga coz I used to get the same looks when that cat was walking with me. Like either Mimi ni mchawi ama why is a cat following me? Ni Djinn. Cats are special. Very special animals.
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Kabsaa, see hapo mapenzi haiko kwa mezaā¦ni utu. See the difference. Stinginess ni muhimu mahali Dem anajua juu akona assets ama nyaus anajua nitakuwa weakā¦no way. Utu hapo nasaidia tu
Sasa naona wewe tunaeza sikizana. My first test kujua uzuri na ubaya ya mutu, I observe how they treat cats and dogs. Akimfukuza paka najua yeye ni self centered na roho chafu.
Kuna time tao hapo jeevanjee niliona ka paka, nikasimama nkakachukua nkakabeba kakatulia kwa kifua changuā¦Kuna jamaa aliniangalia vibaya sana. Hehe nikajiambia apambane na shida zakeā¦nkakaweka chini kakanifuata kakaona nmeenda sana kakarudi.
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Podcast ya kapotty about femicide inaweza kua 10 hours per episode
I donāt touch strays za Tao but if I am eating fish or anything meaty I throw them some pieces. Which restaurant people hate. I also shared my yoghurt on the lid. Itās no biggy, I would even put out bones for a huge stray dog I used to see some place I lived. Kufuga ni ngumu but putting out milk or some food is not a problem. Me I liked birds.
Some people actually donāt like animals at all. For me I liked them since I was a kid and my small bro has fugad every imaginable pet. My mom used to cook ugali for his dogs too LOL. I think kids enjoy pets more than adults. People who torture animals are the dangerous ones. Most serial killers start that way.
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