breaking the ice

You must establish rapport by starting conversations about general topics. Or make eye contact if she stares back at you suggestively you’re good to approach. You can’t just walk straight up to a woman from nowhere na uanze kumuitisha number. Kupewa namba should be the last thing, meaning you have to create a connection hapo hapo before namba bure ata ukipewa namba your subsequent conversations on phone will lead to nowhere

Mtu mzima huyu. Lakini pia me ni mtu mzima coz kuna time nilifika kanairo at around 5 jioni, nikawacha bags hapo Ambassador hotel, nikajifikisha SJ, ati nataka kwanza kunywa Tusker, ([SIZE=1]ujinga tu[/SIZE]) malaiyia flani ameiva shenzi style akanishika magoti, but due to dryspell, kichwa ikaniambia ameshika josto, fashter fashter kwa room shoti moja safi, but sikua naskia nimetosheka. Kama mtu mzima nikafika chuom flani near Accra hotel, huyo mimi nikanunua konduatho kwa @PHARMACY nikaanza kutafta kapeng ting, lakini wapi. My arrogance doesnt allow me to eat bones, nikapata some dirty fat kikuyu hoe, tukaingia bar flani, DJ was playing that dundaing song back to back, but my agenda wasnt to listen to their albums. Nikafikisha threshhold ya kijiji albeit kutukanwa, kuambiwa nimekaa sana ongeza pesa mara hanyonywi mateatea sijui nini. Im surprised that from the time i met that hoe to the time I was done with her, is a span of 10 mins, TF? anyway, nilimalizia na shoti moja classic at some dingy place in keekorok road, hapo ndio pepo ya usherati iliisha. Booked a Kitale express shuttle nikalala niliamkia Nakuru wakisema tuamke tukojoe, it was just after they lifted the night travel curfew.

I use matatus bro…mimi sio mtu ya pesa

Cold approaching works like a charm. But its not for everyone. If you don’t have money or looks just steer clear lest you’ll shatter your confidence.

Foolproof strategy

start with vendor girls (mpesa, botiques, hotels, sellers etc) … Target young ladies selling stuff huko kwa roads/shops … engage in small talk about general stuff kama weather, vile biz iko … flirt kidogo … maybe compliment her clothing, beauty, hardwork … omba namba … try your luck … they are easy lays, with minimal expenditure, and utapata confidence boost

then unaanza cold approaching random ladies

move on to other ladies kama colleges girls, matatu, random etc … small talk, maybe flirting kidogo, omba namba… ukipewa ni sawa … chat hapa na pale … maybe offer to take her somewhere or akuje kejani etc … ukiona haiingiani, cut your loses, delete the number, and move on

If you target kurudi na at least one phone number every few times you are out, you may get lucky … may be 1 in 5 or 10 but its better than nothing

Hakuna vybes ulikuwa nazo…waliona matatu zako wakajipendekeza na kujiingiza box…that is the reality…they played hard to get kujifanya tu wasionekane easy go

Umekosa mse wa kuomba rasa…uka amua kukojoleaa

Na Mimi Kama the pharmacist nkakuuzia zenye zimexpire two years back Dio upatwe na luwere :D:D:D:D:D:D:D , the world will be better without vermin like you @Demakuvu

Leo sina hamu,ama uko ready katambe

:D:D:Dupus

Actually streets ndio poa juu you will stand out from others atacheki una balls. Confidence is everything. Cheki mtaa yule boy by society standards hana kakitu but amejiamini, hao ndio huchota warembo.

Ukiona OP akiuliza such a question, jua amenunua kuma hadi akachoka.
Sasa he wants to settle down with a normal lady only that it’s proving a challenge

It’s easy. If you want high conversion rates, visit chill places…malls, restaurants, gardens/parks/ nje ya libraries, kwa playground za hood etc… hata kwa matatu. Now there’s two ways you can approach successfully:

  1. If a lady is already checking you out, aka you see her glancing towards you once…twice. Go for it.
  2. If you are checking out a lady, let her see you checking her out, just gaze once in a while towards her direction but not necessarily at her. Check out her shoes, if she sees you, great. Her eye contact will let you know if she’s interested. In which case if she is, Go for it.

As to what you should say, talk like a normal human being. Say hello, how are you doing…what’s your name…my name is so and so…you look fine (obviously this says everything - that you’re interested in her romantically). Then ask her general things, what she is up to today, where she is from, if she likes her hood…is it nice…whatever, make conversation. Then ask for her number.

Approaching should be part of your lifestyle. Complimenting ladies works great.

Another thing, usikue fala kama venye mimi nilikua kitambo. As in, know when a lady is hitting on you. For example, there was a time nilikua nashop in a certain mall, then the cute cashier started asking me personal questions…and like a fool, I answered them all correctly. Boooriing.

This partcular lady asked me, “where do you shop apart from here”. I mentioned some other places in the area. That was the wrong answer. The right answer then should have been, “kuja hii friday nikuonyeshe ni wapi”
If a lady compliments you…e.g. “nice shirt”, go for the kill. Say something like, “come along hii wikendi nikushow plug wangu”. Number utapata kimchezo tu.

Basically, always go for the close. …“Come along with me for blah blah blah”. That’s how you get a date with the lady and other nice things.

Finally, make sure your wardrobe, haircut, physical aesthetic, and grooming are on point. These things make you stand out from the rest of the men. All the best my dude.

Kwa street labda uanze na stare then see if she stares back, na usijaribu kuinamia chini, then smile when you have her gaze to see if she smiles back… Akikosa move on. Tell her you thought she was someone else, it kills the weird short after moment. hii yote ni within 6 seconds max. Graduate to a hello, and compliment her on something she seems insecure about, a dark chic tell her her skin looks nice, a light chic may be hair or something she is wearing. Kutoka hapo unaeza receive simu ya uongo to create a moment of suspense then tell her too bad I’m in a hurry can I get your number. Call after 2-3 days. A direct approach is too insane coz they’ve all been programmed to beware of conmen.Best places ni mahali target imerelax si kwenye iko full battery alert kama Kwa street. Disclaimer: this is not relationship advice.

Interchange lanye na Dem. Ukikatia Dem na dry spell utasema wrong words

Spike ni jina ya umbwa. Change your name first

:D:D:D utaanza kum spank na hujui jina na kumsho venye mkia imeweza…

Hapo ndio shetani uingia as you fake a call simu inapigwa ukweli na saa hiyo umeweka ringtone full volume banae, dem anaona wewe ni conman tuu

Flight mode ni ya hizo situation. You just set an alarm to ring like a call ringtone.

hizi advice zenyu ni noma sana na vile kila mtu ako maisha yake