I love how Zulu puts very sensitive matters in a comical fashion.
Hi Zulu.I am 27yrs of age.I have been in a relationship with this guy . He showed me all the love and I felt he understood me . If I get sick ,it bothers him so much.I trusted him so much but recently I found lady’s clothes and when I confronted him, OMG his reaction alone made me angry …umetoa za nn rudisha mahali umetoa…then days passed and he was showing me something from his phone’s gallery, accidentally I saw a photo of him and a lady, he was embracing her from behind. I asked him where the photo was taken from ,he said outside and you can see clearly it’s in a house . Now the issue is this everytime we find ourselves arguing almost over everything. I hate it coz he will never own up to his mistakes. As for me if I wrong him I’m quick to apologize. Everytime we argue he tend to put the blame on me ,ati ooh hizo hasira zako utapunguza oooh unaongea vibaya mind you I always try to state facts and truth but he tells me and when I mute ooo sasa hutaongea mbona madharau…now I’m tired and when I try to leave him I find myself back
You already went too far too soon and that’s why you feel stuck. You mixed yourself with him too much. That ‘life’ you’re enjoying with him unreservedly is meant for inside marriage. You’ve essentially ‘offloaded’ all your feelings there and to pack them again will be a battle. You’ll need a strong resolve and the support of a friend or therapist. That man is unfaithful and disrespectful and you saw that from the onset but you were already ‘borrowing’ comfort from him.
When you date avoid entanglements. Organise your interactions outside the houses so that you can observe the person in action in real life. When you’re going to each others houses and spending time in such secluded places sex will take the central place and you’ll get sucked too deep to even reason.
Once more, dating is an interview for a lifetime position. You must conduct it with utmost sobriety and clarity of mind. Just like you don’t sleep with the merchants from whom you’re enquiring to purchase land or house, never sleep with the prospects among whom you’re enquiring to obtain a marriage. It will influence your judgement and confuse you into making a bad purchase with all your life’s savings, or your life.
(©️ Benjamin Zulu Ke)