(Pre25 Class Notes for today)
Announcement young people: there’s a new sheriff in town. The game has changed. This new sheriff is giving zero airtime to bullshit and shenanigans.
It used to be that people could come into the inbox of a public teacher and write just anything. Some things even sound like the ramblings of an irredeemable drunk.
In the last couple of days I’ve heard so much foolishness it left me sick. A 19 year old is telling me about 5 men, some being her exes and others her boyfriends and suitors and asking for advice in choosing among them.
A 25 year old asking about a ‘son of a pharaoh’ she’s been dating since first year in campus afterwards getting a baby with him in second year and being abandoned at his rural home and mistreated by the in-laws.
A 27 year old having been married for 5 years with 2 kids and no job and put under house arrest by the husband.
A 25 year old been dating for 5 years and feeling heart broken because the boyfriend has left her for another woman.
All of these impossibly stupid situations having one common mistake: premature dating and rushing into marriage with eyes closed and a recklessness that borders on suicidality.
To indulge in dating and love affairs when you’re not even 25, when your brain has not developed enough to know who you shall become and what you want in life, then you do such permanent damage on your life like getting babies or getting married, is the height of ignorance and stupidity.
Most of you come from poor or otherwise struggling families. Common sense should tell you that if you mess up you have no place to run to, and this should instil in you a severe discipline to think hard before you involve yourself in anything like relationship.
If you can forget the dire situation back at home and you go removing cloths and having sex you’re possessed by demons and what you need is exorcism and I’m not a certified exorcist. Your parents brought you to the university to open your brain but instead you’re opening your legs? You were brought here to remove your foolishness and instead you’re removing your clothes? I swear you’re possessed!
Summary? DO NOT type in my inbox any pre25 dating nonsense. You’ll be asking for lashes in the buttocks.
My universal advice for all pre25 entanglements be they relationships or marraiges: weigh your options and either live with the decision or get out. Simple.