I have a license to Adress the matter by virtue of the community I hail from. Now boys and ghels, how many times do you get mad at your boss or your colleagues? Why is it that you have never slapped or beaten up a colleague unless you are a police man or prison warden or gsu but you can slap or beat up your child or bf/gf? Or spouse? It’s just lack of respect. And knowing that you can get away with it. Kick the cat syndrome.
Let me tell you that anger is a spirit. An evil spirit. This is why you are advised to not even spank your child when you are angry. Jesus compared anger to murder. It’s not very far off especially the angrier you get. You need a time out before you react bcz first of all nothing can be resolved when you are in the throws of emotions. You need to return to logic.
In my community it’s very normal to hear people have hacked each other to the point that it’s no longer shocking. There are very many such cases. Folklore goes that my people were enslaved in the island of Manda by some red looking people, maybe Arabs? Then Mugo our prophet led us across the Ocean and we treaked until the slopes were we settled. It is said that the red people sent a spirit after them that every time a person is angry they can only be appeased by the sight of blood. This was meant to cause the people to finish one another. And those who have witnessed hacking incident say that the angry person is in a fit of rage to the point of shaking and sweating like a possessed man and after he starts hacking and the blood starts to flow he immediately calms down. Maybe that’s why most cases are not fatal.
Now relationships have alot of issues. If you see something that is frustrating you, call yourself to a meeting and ask yourself if you can live with it or not. If you cannot start planning to leave. If you can refocus your mind on other things, same way you may hate alot about your boss but the fact that you have accepted his bad traits helps you focus on the goal at hand.
Emotions are very good and very important because without anger you may not realize that something that is not good is happening. For example if you are being cheated on if you are incapable of feeling anything, you may end up getting an STD or HIV. So the emotions are meant to help you protect yourself from being taken advantage of, from being harmed by wreckless decisions of others. The problem comes when there is a problem you don’t want to make a decision to either leave or accept and move on. So your level of frustration just keep escalating until you explode and do the unthinkable. If we heed what our emotions tell us and act from well thought out logic, emotions become servants instead of masters. Eckhardt Tolle suggests hovering observantly over our emotions instead of becoming one with them and over identifying with them. He does not advocate that we suppress emotions but rather form a habit of detaching from them to regain our equilibrium so that we can make logical decisions or decisions based on good clear well thought out logic not emotions.
Guys violence is not a solution to any problem. It is a sign of powerlessness because a powerful person does not have to compel others to cooperate using physical force. This is not emotional intelligence.
Otherwise stay safe. Don’t kill anyone this week. If you are mad, go for a walk. If you are exceedingly angry, go to a hotel. It’s better than going to jail. Let’s respect bodily integrity and the sanctity of life. The fact that a man or woman did you wrong does not justify you going to jail for assault or murder or manslaughter. Calm the hell down. These relationships are never worthy you throwing your life away over.
Have a peace ful week, free of toxic relationshits and situationships.