Nimekuwa Europe for now 2 years.
Sijawai Rudi home ever since I came here and it can get pretty lonely and also depressing juu it’s not all that it seems.
Anyway story ni hii, nimekuwa nataka Kuleta wife uku with my child. Juu naona mtoi is still young so it will be easier to integrate and also atakuwa na better life here than in Kenya.
I just need your honest advise on this.
Is it a good decision?
Nimekuwa naongea na other immigrants huku and all of them wanasema hawaezi taka Kuleta Bibi huku juu atahanya and also she may mess you up juu ataanza kuwa woke and feminist shits and you may even end up being kicked out.
Do what you believe is right. If she’s the kind of person that’ll change , it’s better early than later . Mapema ndio best. There’s pros and cons to either decision.
Hehe. Wueh! Anyway, take her to a 1st world and at some point down the line, once she starts earning the Euros, she will divorce you, 90% of the odds she will. You can delay it by knocking her up every now and then, akae home and raise the kids. It’s something I already settled in my mind, I was there a few years ago. Now, I do me. I invest in my interests here in KE, and not out there, kwasababu Courts out there will milk you dry as a man, don’t even try arguing with them, you can only beg for leniency.
Your family and kids have a better family in kenya. Wakikuja Europe it will just be you, your wife and kids…no social life in Europe kama kenya. Huko ni kazi kazi kazi…no time to bond with kids and other friends. In kenya wanapata kuona their other family and relatives…just enroll them to a good school and let them live in a good secure neighborhood. Then be visiting kenya during your vacation times… also huko Europe utajua hujui watoi wakianza kumea pembe and you cannot dehorn them due to stupid laws…i watch videos online of kids disrespecting and fighting teachers abroad… that cannot happen here in kenya. If i had an option…I’d go to work mayolo and give my family best life here in kenya and be at peace that kufinyiwa utafinyiwa na sio macho…
Hii script tumeiona sana Dallas Texas. Kinuthia anapeleka wife na watoto huko…bibi anaingia chuo anakuwa R.N nurse…anaingiza chuoms poa kushinda mzae kichwa kinaanza kuvimba. Madharau hapa na pale kinuthia anarushwa inje. Kinuthis looses the kids, house, cars and has to pay child support. Its better off to support family in kenya…majuu ni swara…i lived in US alil bit n i still have buddies there… .ma story wao hunichapia bana… .bad mistake to take family there…
Kuna mjamaa alienda yues, akaona loneliness itam-maliza akapanga wife yake afike kule, mumama alimuacha na akaolewa na mzungu. Wamama wafrika ndoto yao ni kupata buana mzungu…OP usijaribu.
OP usijaribu. Wacha, kill that idea kabisa. Do not.
Wacha akae kenya watoi wakiwa wabigi walete huko europe, mwanamke ni fisi sana, I repeat fisi sana. Atakutenda ujipate unaokoka uanze kusumbua mungu bure.
OP atafute jungu ya kupepeta…OP ni nyap anamiss thats why ana contemplate idea ya kuleta wife. Atafute lenye wa kumjotisha twice per month atakuwa sawa. Watoto waki grow waende europe
OP ni kigwayo, anagwaya kudai mdem kuma. Mimi sidhani loneliness inaeza nisumbua medulla oblongata, naweza dai mdem kuma hata na sign language ama nitummie drawings hadi akubali…ama afike SJ ya kule aoshe rungu arudi ku regret baadaye kama ashatoa taki.
two years unafikiri hajakuliwa huku? accept the reality. kama unampenda lete yeye karibu na wewe. deal with her as her husband , not as per social advice. jua tu imeghulwa either way. wakukuliwa atakuliwa tu, awe kenya au majuu, kenya even worse
Yeap, African women are exactly like you describe them. Their dream ni kuolewa na mzungu. People here think Truman Kapote is an outlier but she’s just more outspoken in airing her truth out than your average African woman.
Once I figured out how lowly African women view us, I stopped going for them completely. They will date/marry you out of convenience (because surprise surprise wazungus and other races of men don’t like black women. They go for their own white women or Asian/Latina women).
It’s a very complicated topic but once you see it, you can’t unsee it. The OP of this post should completely rule out the idea of importing a Kenyan wife abroad. Big big big mistake. He’s better off just bringing his kids so they can integrate while young but wife abaki Kenya (in the worst case scenario). My suggestion is wote wabaki Kenya).
In fact, my opinion on this issue is very controversial. I tell every man who moves abroad to find a wife in their new country and start a new life. They think I’m mad but I know it’s the right way to look at things.
Nimekuwa Europe for now 2 years. Sijawai Rudi home ever since I came here
The question in itself is stupid to say the least.
Are you saying atahanya akifika Europe yet you left her alone in Kenya for two years?..What kind of reasoning is this? If she’s not doing it already Jamu, what’s going to change akifika Europa?
Women who do that stuff will do it regardless of location.
Verdict? Reframe your question with what I stated above in mind.
Hii nayo ni kiherehere, Bora ulete Bibi Toka 254, hata akikusumbua, au akuache you can parachute back to KE and all your sweat and property remains with you. If you decide to marry a local you will never build your empire home. But then again I remember your argument of not wanting to invest home when you’re living in the US. Such an asswipe decision. You think driving a shitty ass Buick or Ford Carroll or Shelby makes you immune from buffoonery.
We can’t all agree. Personally, I have a very simple philosophy: invest where you are/live AND don’t try to be in two places at once. The problem is having one foot in one country and the other one elsewhere makes it so that you’ll never go ALL IN on something.
Once again, this is my personal opinion which you may or may not agree with. Different philosophies.
Uyu msee amepost exactly situation yangu adi nikashindwa kama niko hallucination. But for sure every case is different. And you should know better juu pia wewe ulikuwa in a similar circumstance and you went against the grain
