I saw a tiktok about this and thought of doing one for the ladies here.
1)Most important thing, always put God first in your life. Give Him the best of you, your first-time of the day when you wake up. Always set aside a week every year to go to a place where you can spend uninterrupted time with God. Always pray for you and your family before you leave your house. There’s so many evils out here and if moslem and Hindus will not open their business or leave their homes with out prayer I don’t know why you should be the one not doing it. God is everything and He determines everything about your life especially so many things that you don’t know and can’t control. Help the poor bcz whoever helps the poor lends to God. Especially helping to enable them be self reliant.
- Live honorably. Don’t con people. Don’t sleep with people for promotions. Don’t lead people on. Don’t take advantage of vulnerable people. Don’t oppress your workers by refusing to pay them. If you get excess change rudisha and God will bless you and protect you.
3)Dont fall for the previous investment trap. If you invest time in a business or a relationship or a certain area of expertise then you realise that you made a mistake, don’t do what we shopaholics called remorse buying after you experience buyer’s remorse. Meaning you bought something you later regretted buying and because you felt bad about it, you went out to buy more stuff so that you can feel better. This means that if you invest 2 years in a relationship (which is the maximum time any woman should invest in a relationship before marriage or breakup) then you realise that this is not the right person for you, don’t stay for another 2 years trying to make it work, same with a business if it’s not working, IT’S NOT WORKING , cut your losses and move on.
3)Always listen to your instinct it doesn’t have to make logical sense. If you are having a bad feeling or no peace about anything leave it alone. Women have a sixth sense about things. I know many wahindis and I know that when a man meets a business partner he takes his wife to meet her and then when they get back home she will tell him what her instincts are telling her about the potential business partner and the man will make a decision based on that. Don’t talk yourself out of what your spirit tells you. I personally have always regretted when I do not listen to my 6th sense.
4)Listen to your parents. Your parents always want the best for you and they have double your life experience, if they tell you don’t marry someone, dont, before you do something major seek their advice especially dads. Don’t be in darkness when God has put beacons of light in your life in form of your parents.
5)Avoid worldly ways of thinking and doing things. For example having sex because people tell you that you will die without having had sex. Sleeping with bosses to get ahead. Visiting witch doctors to reign in your problematic husband. This are very normal practices for people in the world. They say the end justifies the means. Don’t defile yourself by doing evil things worldly people are doing.
6)To human is err, to forgive divine, do not hold grudges against yourself or others. When you make wrong decisions and you later realise because you have grown, that you were wrong , pray to God and ask for forgiveness and if you can apologise to those who you offended. Also if someone offends you remember that you are also guilty of offending God and even others but God always forgives you. If you refuse to forgive others God will also not forgive you.
7)Don’t put money in the bank invest in real estate.
8)Travel and if possible live and work in different places. In my twenties I traveled fortnightly and I spent one month every year living in a resort town. I did it alone so that should not stop you. Traveling especially for leisure is a wonderful, soul soothing, mind renewing experience. Before responsibilities of child rearing catch up with you, make sure that you have traveled to your satisfaction.
9)Have like minded friends and be careful who you give acess to your life. Be it friends, colleagues, pastors or relatives. Always take your time to learn people and determine that you have the same values and outlook on issues bcz bad company corrupts good people.
10)Plan for retirement. Where you want to live. Like me I want to live at the Coast in my retirement bcz I love hot weather. Always have a positive, can do attitude when faced by challenges. Where there’s a will there’s always a way.
God bless.