Today I share a piece of wisdom to educate fellow men. This lesson has been passed down from generation to generation. Some of you may be aware of it. It’s about money and relationships.
For those with serious gf hoping to marry them, don’t splash money on her to impress her. Please, be you. Then based on how much you understand her, entrust her with little monies and observe how she spends. This should be monies you can afford to lose and part of your idle cash.
Depending on your context, she should spend that money wisely. Any spending that is not focused on your relationship but her alone and her other relationships like family means she is a red flag. Be wise enough like an intelligence agency to know if her spending is just to hoodwink you yet her real priorities are elsewhere.
Also, be ready to play the long game and always recalibrate to drain her Incase she is smarter than your little money games. Also, this money games are done only after other requirements key to you in a relationship have been met.
The lesson is, for a small amount of money you will be able to understand the kind of woman you are dealing with rather than discovering later on when you are in deep shit.
e.g. back in the days I had this friend who always complained about his gf, they lived together. I advised him to do so. His gf spent the money on pizza and other such like things. That alone showed this was a girl who just wanted to be spoiled, nothing more . I don’t expect her to start proposals of a wines and spirits store because that also will be a red flag, possibly an indicator of lanye history or friends in her past life, nativity etc.
Now to married men, try your best and sort your household needs. Don’t fall for this 50/50 thing like it’s the gold standard, but after sorting and their are shortfalls, your wife should cover the balance without complains. Your personal budget is part of your needs and it’s part of what you are covering.
Your personal budget should enable you exist as you. Not as a family. It should enable you have your own side projects or persue personal Interests. This is one thing most men abandon in marriages which later makes them less attractive to their wives, or suffer Incase the marriage breaks.
Now, depending on how you understand your wife, and how much you can throw around, entrust her with some little money and maybe tell her niekee hii. Then watch how she behaves. Probably if she is a bad woman she will spend the money on useless and stupid things, or she will ‘go mad’ with your little change, or she will even elope or even kill you. Or lie here and there
Make it a habit. Also, sometimes don’t give her any and tell her sahii umekaukiwa. And watch her.
What this does it reveals your woman’s character. Enables her to know unaeza sota and life will go on, a better day will come. If she gets stupid and misbehaves when you don’t give her small change to ‘keep for you’ just know you have a problem. Also, it kills the demon in women that causes them to more likely sleep with anyone with an amount she hasn’t seen before.
At the end of it, always request for that small money you had given her to keep. If you had spent some of it earlier, or had authorized her to spend a certain amount based on her wise proposals and advice, then request for the balance. Everything should be meticulously be accounted for with precision.
Remember Judas Iscariot was Jesus Christ treasurer and he was not always honest, wise or accurate. He eventually betrayed Jesus at just 30 pieces of silver