-I know many ladies will be frustrated and somehow angry at this article but please read on upto the last paragraph; I aint justifying cheating but just showing you how the man’s brain is wired.
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3 Reasons men aren’t meant to be monogamous
Are men really monogamous?
In a famous study a male rat was allowed to mate with a female rat until exhaustion. After some time the male rat lost energy and didn’t try to approach the female rat again. However when another female was put in the cage the male rat became instantly sexually active and started mating with the new female. This kept happening as the researchers kept introducing new females.
Studies have shown that males do lose their sexual interest in their women when they get into a long term relationship. This doesn’t mean that a man no longer gets attracted to his woman but it’s just the fact that lack of novelty lowers male libido and reduces sexual desire.
There is no excuse for a man to cheat on his wife. psychological disorders can also lead to cheating. However this doesn’t mean that a man who doesn’t cheat doesn’t get attracted to other females.
A healthy man will automatically find a good looking woman provoking no matter how loyal he was. Men’s minds have a built in system that helps them choose the right women. A man will always get attracted to females who have a low waist to hip ratio, feminine facial features and symmetric faces. (see my article on why the human mind is lazy)
Evolutionary psychologists say that early men mated with more than one woman to spread their genes. However as monogamy became the new norm , few hundreds of years ago, polygamy became a shameful and sensitive topic.
3 Reasons men aren’t meant to be monogamous
Love & sexual attraction is almost the same for men:
Because most men fall in love when they see attractive females they always feel like wanting more than one woman. Many men don’t declare that fact but this doesn’t mean that those men don’t experience those feelings.
Men were polygamous throughout history:
When you study history you will discover that men were always polygamous and that they just became monogamous in the recent era due to social pressure and other factors
Male libido drops when he commits to one woman:
As the studies have shown male libido goes low when he commits to one women. Men who are allowed to have sex with more than one woman usually have a much higher interest in sex.
In another theory men who are already polygamous, according to the theory, had to become monogamous to prevent other males from killing their offspring. When men mate with more than one woman and have so many children it becomes hard to protect them all and because of that reason men started sticking to one female to easily protect the family.
What does this mean to a woman?
-I quite understand how frustrating it can be for a woman to read about such studies. The main aim for this article is to help women understand how men think. This article doesn’t imply under any case that cheating should be accepted but it just attempts to give you a better understanding of the male brain.
A man who secretly fantasies about another woman isn’t necessary a cheater. Its just that the way men are forces them to get sexually aroused by novelty. A man who married a white woman might one day wish to marry a dark woman and the opposite is true. Men always want to have sex with more partners and it takes a great effort for a man to stay committed to one woman.
I am a Man and I can confirm that this research study is nothing further from the truth. Hash_tag , I bet I missed your article on why the human mind is lazy. Please provide a link. Asande sana
Ol monk its true humans ar3 socially monogamous but what hashtag is talking about is genetic monogamy[between species that can produce with one another]. A nice example of social monogamy would be between a man and his pet dog
@ol monk ,it IS polygamy if ur married to ALL the multiple sexual partners but it IS cheating if you’re only married to one of em but bedding the others as your side dishes.
-Case in point that Wanyonyi guy whose whereabouts are unknown was/is a polygamist. Our grandfathers were polygamists but as my article has pointed out; due to society pressure and norms, men have been forced to BE cheaters and not polygamists.
HEhehe… if they were gay rats then they ought to have had sex… if they were all straight then that would be one hell of a rat orgie if female rats were also introduced into the mix.
Hapo unadanganya @ol monk
Why not? If you saw your dad sampling different pussies on a daily basis tell me what will be going on in your mind considering the fact that the women are ok with it and your old man is also enjoying it???
It depends. As you pointed out; its a personal choice. The kid might turn out to be a monogamist or a polygamist of course depending on many factors i.e upbringing, environmental factors, how he/she will interact with mates! Hehee!! My response was just a banter @ol monk
Too many words to explain that which needs no explanation. Men are polygamous coz we are that way, period.
That so called “famous study” has too many flaws it cannot be taken seriously by any critical thinker.
The comedian Gordons from Nigeria (night of a thousand laughs) offers a better explanation and to the point.
Men will always cheat - coz we have some living stuff inside our bodies. Complete with a head and a tail. And when we see a pretty woman, these things start to move. And when the movement start becoming vigorous, we declare a state of emergency, coz these things will not listen to voice of reason ati zitulie no matter how hard you try
Yes and if the invading rat wins he would have sex with the female rat with no qualms at all. This shows as much as we men try to present ourselves as promiscuous, the female gender can be equally if not worse than we think we are
My next post will explain about female cheating also. From a psychological pointa view. What truth am I sugar coating beib’ gal ?
Men dont just cheat @spax ,it just doesnt happen for the sake of it. Everything has its root and its own cause.