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Consolidated efforts to give both genders equal opportunities, close the pay gap and literacy levels have been largely successful. Sadly, this progress has also led to a neglect of the human male species. Phasing out of initiation rites that saw older men inculcate important life lessons in the younger generation coupled with constantly changing economic challenges that plague the modern man who is still expected to be a provider and protector has left him feeling frustrated, disillusioned and emasculated.
With his position in the society threatened, his identity lost and afraid of being branded a misogynist the modern African man can no longer speak out his mind, choosing to suffer in silence. This ends today. The following are 13 harsh truths about life every man should know.
[SIZE=6]Unconditional Love is an Illusion[/SIZE]
Men across the globe are obsessed with finding someone who will love them unconditionally, stick by them through thick and thin. A woman who will stand beside them in both good and bad times. A friend who will always come to their aid when in need. Men are capable of loving someone unconditionally. Devoid of reason or logic they would gladly put their lives on the line for those they care most about. Sadly, this kind of love is rarely reciprocated.
People will always love you so long as you meet a certain need in their lives. Your woman will stick with you during tough times not because she loves you unconditionally but because she can see that you have the potential to overcome the hurdles and take back the reins. Your friends will hang around because of the perks that come with your friendship. Even your blood relatives will abandon you if they think your situation is hopeless.
Love is an illusion. Don’t destroy yourself in pursuit for love. Society will only tolerate you so long as you are useful otherwise discard you without a second thought.
[SIZE=6]A Man is Never Appreciated[/SIZE]
Being a man is a thankless job. Gender roles may have shifted but men are still expected to fulfill their traditional roles just like in the cave days. Fail to provide for your family and you will be branded a deadbeat. Provide without fail and nobody appreciates that because you are simply doing what is expected of you. If you were hoping for a pat on the back for effectively undertaking your duties then you are in for a big disappointment. If lucky you will get an oversize suit or a pair of socks as tokens of appreciation for the years you toiled to ensure none of your loved ones lacked anything.
[SIZE=6]Man is a Lonely Creature[/SIZE]
As a man, you are bound to spend a huge chunk of your life alone. It is hardwired into our genetic code. You may have lots of friends but most times when you want to make major strides in your life or are in trouble your first instinct is to retreat back into your mancave. You pull back from everyone in order to think clearly, restrategize and work on how to meet your objectives.
Having a partner doesn’t change a thing. By the time you hit fifty all you want is to take things slow having achieved most things you hoped to in your lifetime. Meanwhile, your woman will be rediscovering herself to make up for lost time since the kids now are all grown up. She will probably go back to graduate school, pick up new hobbies or travel when all you want is to chill having done it all. Your kids will only reach out to you when they need help. Therefore, you have to learn how to enjoy your own company because a man is a lonely beast.
[SIZE=6]When You Fall Everyone Flees[/SIZE]
Life is full of ups and downs. There are times when things will be great. Business, careers, health, and family all perfect and other times your life will crumble. Everything you touch will turn into dust. The people you consumed copious amounts of alcohol and munched roasted goat ribs with, men & women whom you thought were ride or die friends will disappear from your life. They will stop picking your calls and duck when they see you from across the street.
Your woman will lose the respect she had for you, say nasty things and treat you like an intruder in your own home. Your family & relatives will treat you with disdain, gossip and laugh at your misfortunes. 99% of the people you helped out when they were in need will not come within a 5 km radius. Your kindness will be repaid with scorn. That’s just how the world works.
Since tough times are bound to happen, diversify your investments, have an emergency kitty stashed somewhere to cushion your fall because nobody will come to your aid. If anyone comes to your aid rest assured it will be someone you least expect. Never forget them.
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