Wadau, Mimi I am 2nd born wa familia middle upper class if not upper echelon karibu na akina Ngina, Fidel(RIP) na Muhoho. Mimi na wenzangu wa tumbo moja tumesomea academies na majuu. Lakini iko Shida na last born.
Everyone is mature kwa watoto 5 lakini cushite mmoja in queshen ndio ameleta shida sana. Kazi ni pombe, bangi, Netflix, PS, sports betting na wanawake. Ako karibu 30 na kazi ni kuchoma AddisAbaba na kuishi na wazazi. Kijana hadi amenunuliwa ngamia kumi ya kuanza biz huko Isiolo but wapi…A few months its all amounted to zero. Unaweza aje poteza ngamia 10?
Hii maisha ni ngumu as it is and wazazi naona wanateseka sana but mtoto ni wao, wameshughulika wakachoka. Mimi Kama SV kwa hiyo boma nawaambia kijana afukuzwe nyumbani ajipange kama mbwa mwitu lakini hawataki hiyo maneno.
I would suggest rehabilitation but we once took an older brother huko but the results were futile. It all depends on his will to change. No need to try and dictate how one should live yet his perspective view of life is totally different. Let him be.
This is a common problem with last borns, I think am the only last born without hii ufala. Anyways saingine viboko huwak ama tupa yeye nje ajipange kimaisha, apana mbembeleza yeye sio matumbe.
mimi am my brothers keeper hawezi lala njaa nikiwa alive. but kama ni mwizi au involved in any other crime i cut him off. but kama ni ulevi na laziness. just try to make sure he ako straight before finishing university, try kusaidia wazazi apate papers aanze ujinga after graduating , eventually he will see the light better he sees the light with papers hata akiwa 60 years, unaweza mtafutia job mahali.
Your situation isn’t unique … its very common to have a problem child in your family. I have a female cousin who is 41 but she is a troubled soul everything in her life she destroys. As we speak she has abandoned her 12 yr old daughter for like 3months na hakuna msee anajua mahali yuko. She has done this so many times mpaka tumechoka but she eventually shows up.
Amazingly, she book smart.
She can’t keep a job… she will get bored and not show up. The last job she had was mtumba bales broker she was making good money but she stole from the person who was giving her goods on credit and ghosted its bn 3months.
FYI she likes her alcohol and weed …
Similar case with my 25yo last born brother, I and my siz have tried to assist him in all aspects of life but wapi.my siz managed to secure him jobs but everytime he spoils it with nothing to show for. I’ve tried to loop him in the business world where I am but all in vain.
Tried the last time this year March, pleb did 2 weeks and left me in a desperate state.
I’ve vowed to NEVER EVER help him.
Acha akule bangi, sigara, miraa na pombe vile anataka.
Ile madharau na ujeuri amenionesha I can never accommodate him again.
Hapa kuna kaukweli,papers are so so important,so shugulika for him to graduate alafu look for a job for him,the independence will make him more reliable and mature
Honestly, problem iko hapo kwa kumshika mkono. Muacheni alearn mwenyewe. Maisha impige pigo nzito… at 25yrs bado hajakomaa … by the time he’s 30, that is mkimuacha, atakuwa amelearn. Uzuri you have done your bests, you owe him nothing